Oral sex is a vommon theme here. And I think that you would find that the woman on this site are very open and enjoy giving and receivng. But, I want to answer your question about giving something to a wife/GF/SO without them being willing to give something back.

When I am with my partner, there are things that I do because it pleasures him and that brings me pleasure. I don't do it as a scorecard-I did this for you now you have to do this for me. And then , in return it lets me enjoy and appreciate whatever he feels comfortable doing with/for me. No one should ever be forced or made to feel guilty about something they don't enjoy.

First question: Is it reasonable? Not sure I would apply that word. You do it out of love for them, regardless of what they can do for you. Is it fair? No.

Second: I, personally think oral sex should go both ways. If your loved one is going to do it for you, then why can't you do it for them?

Thirdly: It is not accurate that most women do not perform oral sex, but want it in return. There are SOME! But not most. I love giving oral sex. And many times, I just do it b/c I want to, expecting and/or getting nothing in return.

it's unreasonable. But I agree with Flutter that anyone who goes into a relationship trying to keep score and making sure the other person does exactly as much for them as they do for theirs is asking for trouble. There are times when things are unequal, but then it seems like it evens out in the end.

This is the best way for me to answer..I give my husband oral sex because he likes it and I like it.I enjoy pleasing him and making him feel good.He does not perform oral on me.I dont think he is comfortable enough to do it.I dont expect him to.would I like it?Of course but I wont stop pleasing him orally just because he wont please me.Now if he demanded it or expected it that would be a whole different story.

For your first question, is it reasonable? I'd say yes, but it's not fair for the husbands to not receive in return.

Second question: Yes, I think it should go both ways. I enjoy giving oral sex as well as receiving as does my husband.

Third: No, it's not accurate. I do enjoy my husband giving me oral sex, but I enjoy giving it in return. There are women out there who do not like to give blow jobs but I wouldn't say "most women".

I agree with everyone else on this and you should only do things that you and your partner both enjoy and not keep score.

I personally enjoy giving oral than receiving.Always have and always will.Every once in a while is okay but I prefer other things. He enjoys giving but it is just not for me.

I think mostly it is the one thing I can do that can stop him in his tracks and he can't move.

Not a woman, but I think "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and vice versa should be a motto for any relationship, sexual or no. It's just fair and good karma.

I agree with what everyone is saying. My only thought is. Is there a reason why she is not willing to perform oral on you. Is she insecure on her ability to give oral? She may be turned off by something. I'm only trying to be helpful when saying this. Have you asked her why she doesn't like to do it? Sometimes woman don't like to do it when you are sweaty and it smells or not well kept. I'm not saying this is how you are. It's just a thought on why she may not want to do it. Then there are people in general who are just selfish in bed. Although score cards should never play a role. Pleasing each other is a major role.. Hope this helps.

I have to admit giving oral is not my favorite. I do feel guilty for that It is not fair to my hubby.But I'am getting better.

I have always felt that it should be mutual, but WANTED. My stbx and a woman that i dated for a very short time both didn't like giving oral. The stbx got USED to doing it andshe was OKAY with my giving it to her. She was a prude anyway. As for the woman i dated for a short time..when i did start having sex, she literally expected me to go down on her, but when i asked her to do the same i got "If i HAVE to". I thought "what a hell of a thing to say?!" Anyway, i'm glad that ones over cause she really could care less about my pleasure in the bedroom and that was obvious FAST.

Second, my gf loves to give me oral ! Even on her time of the month she at least wants to pleasure me orally. She also does love when i do her as well :) and i love giving it to her :)

Of course, ...I agree with kool again...give and you shall receive.

when i was married,,,,she never did give,,,,but she wanted me to all the time,,,,didn't sound fair,,,but dang did i love it,,,LOL woooooohoooooooo,,,

I don't think it is reasonable. I guess if you can handle that it is okay but I don't want to be in that kind of relationship.

I have only been intimate with one guy that didn't reciprocate orally. He had married his highschool sweetheart and they divorced 20 years later. He said he had never gone down on her and he wasn't planning on ever doing it. As much as I enjoy pleasing a man orally that got real old being the only one doing the pleasing in that way.

I'd been about to ask the same questions as Gina, is there something putting her off oral that the two of you need to address?

A big killer for me is a guy who just lies there and doesn't make a sound. I like a bit of feedback about what I'm doing right, if he's completely silent I'll think "hello, is this doing anything for you or have you just got rigor mortis?"
And then of course there's the hygiene question as well; this hasn't been a problem with most guys but one or two have been pretty bad - so of course with any new partner, I'm going to be a bit apprehensive.

I'm not saying either of these are the problem for you; just that a woman might well have had unpleasant experiences with it in the past.

I hear you Pheonix. I'm VERY oral when i'm recieving, especially cause my gf is SO damn good at it ! lol And it of course turns her on to hear me as well and i'm the same way when i give her oral. As for the hygeinge....you are also right on the money there. Whenever she tells me she's on her way over, i always hop in the shower and make sure her meat is fresh and clean :)