Have you guys tried additional stuff so that it helps him to get off? My boyfriend is taking anti depressants and is hard for him to get him going, but he started taking natural enhancements and it kind of helps.

First, I wasn't 100% clear on whether "woman on top" was still the only position he can do, or were you saying that you are more comfortable now and were just giving it a shot?

It is hard to give to much advice here without asking for very specific and personal details about your "technique" that are none of my business.

As a guy who loves for the woman to be on top I can tell you that I have had good, and bad and everything in between. I can't imagine anyone being so bad at it that I couldn't finish. Boring is a woman who just bounces up and down. No variety at all. But mix in swinging and rotating the hips and we are off to the races. For me personally, it also matters whether I think my partner is into it.. If I can tell that my wife is clearly just going through the motions, I can't relax and enjoy myself. I always liked a vocal woman, not obnoxiously loud.. just enough to let me know it feels good.

It isn't much but, like I said, without getting really uncomfortably personal with
you its what I can offer. If you think the diet is the issue, there are supplements that might help. There are oils and creams that enhance sensitivity. When I have had a hard time finishing, I usually just need to change up what I'm doing and it all works out in the end.

Couple of things that should work if he hasn’t lost it.

Watch porn together.

If that doesn’t work, invite one of your girlfriends.

If that doesn’t work, maybe he has lost it cuz if my wife invited one of her friends, it’s Going down.., I mean up! You know what I mean!

well it is good to change positions on top ride facing him then get up and turn around and ride him backwards. I think it is going to swirve around on it and not just bounce up and down. make sure you are not hurting him putting too much pressure on his shaft or his balls. Make sure you are well lubricated if you are not that can be uncomfortable for both of you. And take breaks and add a little oral sex or something else to spice things up and change the pace. Switch between slow motion and a quicker pace if you are both ready.

Lean down, run you hands in his hair pull gently...love that!

Whisper sexy and naughty things in his ears...l

Play with his nipples....play with your own...

Reach back and caress his balls...

All things I love. :)

GL.

Hey Des, sorry to hear about your husband.

Have you tried reverse cowgirl while having him caress you?

Pretty much everything suggested I have tried. I loathe reverse cowgirl. I don't see how anyone is able to comfortably move for an extended period of time like that? I don't know. I'm at a loss.

Bummer Des. I don't know of anything else other maybe laying on you side and spooning.

I commend you for trying to make it work. :)

when on top try putting pressure on the space between his balls and his anus. I know that my boyfriend goes absolutely crazy when I do that during a blow job or sex. Also try L-arginine its a natural supplement that increased blood flow to the penis. It takes a couple weeks to build it up but it works. Lastly is he able to do any sort of exercise? That will build up some testosterone levels for him to be able to feel sexual desire.

Don't know if this is helpful, but my personal experience is that my orgasms are better and happen more easily when I'm on top -- but I'm too lazy/don't have the stamina. I prefer letting the guy be on top and do all the work (Seriously thanks for the work you do, guys -- I totally respect that being on top takes more physical effort).
Anyway, the rare times I do it I don't sit straight up while I'm straddling him, I kind of lean forward and that makes it easier. Especially if the guy has a long penis.

ALso, Des: Consider the source of your self-consciousness about being on top. In my experience being self-conscious (about your body, about what you're doing and whether it looks silly) is the absolute bane of sexual enjoyment! For years I was afraid to really "let go" in sexual situations for fear of looking ridiculous. The fact is that sex can look silly. Or as my favorite sex educator once described, "like a couple of beached whales". But it feels so damn good it's worth it in the end. Maybe you can learn to embrace the silliness/awkwardness? (I found that marijuana helps but whatever works to get you in your comfort zone).

Are u superb at oral? Start off with this and make sure ur adding extra spit, so that it's super wet...After that slip it inside u and watch the magic...