Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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HeaveToo 02/27/2010

Do you think that sex is better when you are in love with the person?

I do! I think it also gets better with time.

deleted_user 02/27/2010

MUCH BETTER!!!

HeaveToo 02/27/2010

Sex without love is selfish, in a way. Sex with love can be selfless as both partners try to please the other more. That is my experience anyway.

deleted_user 02/27/2010

I do not think Love has to play into it at all.

I can be a selfless lover with or without love.
Sex is what you and the other person put into it, I can have great sex say with my ex wife when we loved each other and it was mind blowing.
But I had a woman I dated later and she was fantastic in bed, and mind blowing as well.

People like to think because your mind is more into it that it is better. But you can have someone who is a poor lover put into it with Love and a great lover put little into it without love and still have better sex with the latter.

deleted_user 02/27/2010

I agree with heavetoo.

deleted_user 02/27/2010

Good question. The answer requires a great deal of research; perhaps even a lifetime. I'm half way there. I'll let you know in about fifty years.

deleted_user 02/27/2010

I guess so, but I have not in my experience found it to get better over time. There is nothing like that newly in love, crazy about you, can't get enough of you kind of sex!

koolman 02/28/2010

Oh, absolutely! But, I agree with Sapphire, it's difficult to make it last over the long haul.

I think frequent breaks and busy schedules are necessary. It's the only way to keep it hot. When you've been apart for a week, been tempted by others but haven't acted on it, you miss your SO like crazy and then it's hot and fresh when you get back together!

deleted_user 02/28/2010

I definitely agree that it gets better with time, that's why I gave up one-nighters when I realised they weren't really doing it for me.
That doesn't mean that I have to be "in love", just in lust enough to get enthusiastic about it.

deleted_user 03/01/2010

Yes, it is the icing on the cake. And you can eat it too...

deleted_user 03/01/2010

I have been in love Once, and it was absolutly the best sex I ever had. For 2 1/2 years we did it everyday, and if I could have did it 5 times a day with her i would have. Till this day I still think about her. For me Love and Sex together was amazing. I miss the feeling.

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