Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

4,510 Members

18,215 Posts

0 Online

tossedaside 09/10/2010

in reading many posts throughout the HSSG, it has come to my attention that certainly not all men nor women, save the members of HSSG, enjoy performing orally with their partner.
What gives, I know several elderly gents that enjoy/enjoyed going down on their SO. Yet I read frequently, how ladies often only have an occasional romp with a partner that enjoys giving the lil man in the boat a good tongue lashing.
Same can be said of guys who have SO's that have no desire to give a good BJ.

Surely not every pusslicker and cocksucker in the world is on DS.

Any thoughts as to why people do not like pleasuring their partners orally. We have discussed being sKared of the Kitty, and shirking from the Shaft size.
ANY thoughts?

BrokenEye 09/10/2010

It might have something to do with the other function, of expelling waste, you get told often enough that something is seen as dirty, then it sticks.

deleted_user 09/10/2010

I think some men and women think it is wrong because of the reason Broken mentioned. Also some may feel this way do to their religious beliefs, also fear they aren't good at it. Or they don't like the taste or smell? Other reasons could be that the only reason men perform oral sex on them is so that they could get it in return. Thats not true for all men, but understand this: women oftentimes have discharge, periods, etc. and they don't always feel so clean and fresh down there. Many feel a need to shave, and if it gets too "hairy" they might not let you down there. I'm guessing since I don't know really why that is, I'm very much into giving and receiving oral.

BrokenEye 09/10/2010

Nothing that a good flushing with a pressure washer can't cure, eh Merc ?

deleted_user 09/10/2010

You got it, just add soap!! Or the drive through automatic car washes lol

BrokenEye 09/10/2010

Good idea, save some money and tie your wife to the roof :)

tossedaside 09/10/2010

ok so lets pretend everyone is well groomed, clean, healthy and horny. I think oral sex is the greatest precursor to intercourse, yet so many state their SO is just not into it. Could that mean they are more into their own self gratification, giving no thought to their SO's pleasure. Surely with as many self help guides ORAL SEX can rise up and be universal "snickering" sound like a damn politician.

deleted_user 09/10/2010

I don't know why some men enjoy it and why some men don't? My ex-husband I can count on 1 hand how many times pleased me with oral. He was very good at it, he just didn't enjoy doing it!! I've only been with two men who truly enjoy giving and gave all the time.

I do hope when I find that special person Toss he is into giving and receiving as much as I am :)

BrokenEye 09/10/2010

I can't understand it either, it's just the absolute best thing, i prefer it over penetration any day.

deleted_user 09/10/2010

I agree Broken, I absolutely love it too!!

kidsintowe03 09/13/2010

all I can tell you, my good friend, is that if my SO wasn't into it....I wouldn't be into the relationship.

And on that matter, you better believe that if I wasn't getting an lip action there, neither would he.

Sexual relationships that are "give only" are tiring and not worth it.

deleted_user 09/13/2010

Unfortunately Kids, some relationships are giving only not just sexually but in all areas.

In this case there is often no alternative but to cut your losses.

totallychaotic247 09/14/2010

I have never been with a partner who didn't enjoy giving it. Some are more enthusiastic than others. I also enjoy giving a great bj. For me, giving a bj is a huge turn on. I ike the reaction I get too much to hold out lol. My partner is not on DS, and has a very healthy respect for giving and getting oral.

deleted_user 09/14/2010

I can almost guarantee you that if a male is not getting a bj from his significant other, he is getting it from someone else.

lostsoul72 09/14/2010

iper I would say BULLSHIT ! to that. I was married to a woman for 13 years that may do it once a year. I gave her every time she would let me. If the relationship means enough you will go without oral and if you dont then the relationship dosent mean SHIT ! We can talk sex here all we want, but if it is just that to you or anyone else here you might as well be rabits out humping in the front yard, because you are following the animal instinct and not using the brain. I love to please my SO if I had one right now, but it dosent matter if she wouldnt be into that then so what.
Peace

Join the Conversation