Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I've been in a relationship now for about a year. Everything about the relationship is good except the sex. It's very infrequent and unsatisfying. I've tried to communicate this but get nowhere. I'm so frustrated right now on many levels. Help!
First how is your workout routine?
How is your job?
How are your hobbies?
How are your finances?
If you are not married end it. A relationship based on sex will end and fail.
You have to love yourself and be happy with yourself, once you are out of your self, you can love someone else and be happy.
What do you expect sex to be? porn which you know is fake.
Saying "I would like sex to be more..." (passionate, lusty, animalistic), telling them what you admire about their body, telling them how attractive you find them, and then describing various sexual activities and positions you'd like to get into with them, boosts their ego and self-esteem, is a more positive, creative approach.
If they're still not willing or able to deliver, you can decide whether to stay with them or dump them and move on, but at least you'll be armed with information, words, that can help you attain what you want.