Healthy Sex Support Group
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it's really embarrassing to talk about so I guess asking a bunch of strangers on the internet will be okay.
I was a virgin for a long time. I'm 22 now and the person I've been with is who I had my first time with.
but we have a slight problem. either he is too big or something is wrong, because it is extremely painful no matter how much lube we use, what position we do or how gentle he tries to be.
he's a little over average size.
after attempted intercourse it just burns and feels like something inside has torn. not just the first time, but every single time.
it doesn't hurt as long as he doesn't move. at all.
:/
I was a virgin for a long time. I'm 22 now and the person I've been with is who I had my first time with.
but we have a slight problem. either he is too big or something is wrong, because it is extremely painful no matter how much lube we use, what position we do or how gentle he tries to be.
he's a little over average size.
after attempted intercourse it just burns and feels like something inside has torn. not just the first time, but every single time.
it doesn't hurt as long as he doesn't move. at all.
:/
I am sure you have some anxiety involved to with the pain and fear of so please try to get yourself to relax as that will only make things worse. Have he tried to maybe use his fingers to work your area out a little and forplay ? This can help relax things too.
Burning could be caused by not wet enough, it could be a allergic reaction to latex if he's using condoms or if the condoms are one with a sperimicide, you could be allergic to the spermicide. Allergies to spermicide are very common. Feeling like something has torn inside sounds like you're not wet enough inside and not aroused enough.
Make sure you get a LOT of foreplay so you're really aroused and if intercourse still hurts, go back to more foreplay. You need to relax and if you haven't tried different positions, give all kinds of positions a try. Woman on top, you can control depth of penetration, movement and how fast, slow you want it, give that a try.
If all fails and you continue having pain, talk to your gyno about it.
We haven't had any problems with getting me extremely wet and lubed inside. I relax more now, at first I couldn't relax at all.
the most painful part is the first few seconds of penetration.
after wards, I will feel a burning sensation inside my vagina.
we have tried with and without condoms to see if it was an allergy. we use KY lube.
I guess I will have to go to a doctor because this sucks.