Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Today makes 2 weeks since I lost my virginity.. and I am 24 years old. I was really sure I would be a virgin for the rest of my life, but everything happened so naturally and when I least expected that I am so glad I waited all this time..
The very first time was a bit difficult, it hurt a lot.. and I mean a lot. I was nervous and anxious and this was making it harder for us, but thank god the person who was with me is a very caring loving and patient man, so he took good care of me and we did it very slowly..
The first 3 times (which were 3 days in a row) did hurt to me .. and I bled a lot, like I was having my period.. I even had to wear a tampon cause there was some serious blood.. does anyone know if this is natural to happen? I mean bleeding yes but.. this much?
After the 4th time it stopped hurting so we did it a lot of times in the next few days. We really are in love with it each other, and we just wanted to keep doing it, but the thing is I never orgasmed or felt any pleasure..
He came in every single time we did it .. I never did. We discussed about it and he told me it was quite natural, that I was just getting started, that it would get better with time, but also I had to relax and not think about orgasms.. just enjoy the moment..
I am happy I kept him satisfied but I also feel frustrated I never managed to get an orgasm.. some friends say they started getting it after 5th time and we had sex about 13 times in a week.. and nothing to me ..
I only could feel some pleasure with him giving me oral or fingering me ...
Is this normal or is there any problem with me? Sadly we are apart now and I can only see him again in 3 months :(
The very first time was a bit difficult, it hurt a lot.. and I mean a lot. I was nervous and anxious and this was making it harder for us, but thank god the person who was with me is a very caring loving and patient man, so he took good care of me and we did it very slowly..
The first 3 times (which were 3 days in a row) did hurt to me .. and I bled a lot, like I was having my period.. I even had to wear a tampon cause there was some serious blood.. does anyone know if this is natural to happen? I mean bleeding yes but.. this much?
After the 4th time it stopped hurting so we did it a lot of times in the next few days. We really are in love with it each other, and we just wanted to keep doing it, but the thing is I never orgasmed or felt any pleasure..
He came in every single time we did it .. I never did. We discussed about it and he told me it was quite natural, that I was just getting started, that it would get better with time, but also I had to relax and not think about orgasms.. just enjoy the moment..
I am happy I kept him satisfied but I also feel frustrated I never managed to get an orgasm.. some friends say they started getting it after 5th time and we had sex about 13 times in a week.. and nothing to me ..
I only could feel some pleasure with him giving me oral or fingering me ...
Is this normal or is there any problem with me? Sadly we are apart now and I can only see him again in 3 months :(
Maybe explore with yourself while he is away. See what areas are the most sensitive for you and where the spots are that give you the most pleasure, then find ways you can help your partner find those places. Might not be through normal vaginal sex but there are many ways you can please each other.
Vibrators maybe, even! Something like the we-vibe, which you can use WITH your partner might be a fun idea. :)
You need to relax and allow orgasms to happen. Enjoy and concentrate on the sensations your feeling. If you concentrate on trying to make orgasms happen whether it's with fingering, oral, intercourse or any other way, chances are they won't. Relax, enjoy, let him know what you need to orgasm, let your mind and body come together to feel the sensations and allow them to happen, don't try to make them happen.
I can't orgasm unless something else is going on... many women can't... I have heard different numbers, but I think it's 1/3 of women can't orgasm by intercourse alone, they need oral or manual stimulation going on.
I'm glad you are happy... many women regret their first sexual experience. Make sure you communicate with him, be open and honest about what feels good and what doesn't. any good partner WANTS to learn how to make you feel good.
Also, some women have a harder time reaching climax through intercourse. If fingering and oral are the only ways it feels good to you, try doing more of that.
Finally, and most importantly, have fun. Sex isn't the destination, it's the whole experience. Focus too much on "getting there" and you won't be able to enjoy everything that gets you there.
Yes I think you should see a doctor. Ask the doctor about not having an orgasm too..I would think you would have had one after having sex so many times.