Nope, stbxh and I always kept our sex life high on the top of our priority list. We were much busier in our 20s than now. Even when our kids were small and we were busy running around in all directions with a million things to do and places to go, we still wanted for sex and always made the time for it. For 27 years we were together, it was rare when we went more than 2 or 3 days at the most without and that was usually due to an illness.

Partner and I don't have small kids to deal with, his and my kids are all adults now. We also don't have busy schedules like when he or I were younger but sex is very important to both of us in a relationship so I doubt it would have an effect on our sex life if we did have that life again.

Wow...congratulations.

Might have been the problem, could be, I'm just a dick and un tolerable. Nah! thats not it.

I think there are a great many who have similar issues, just never enough time, for anything remotely fun, bills, kids, mortgages, unemployment etc etc.

There was a time I felt every child born should be granted a college education and whatever vocation they exceeded in would be their lifes calling. Heres the kicker, they did not start that job til they were 50 yrs of age. From college graduation on, they were foot loose and fancy free, there homes and lives were furnished accordingly with the amount of money there future occupation would grant them. There would be time to do, time to have, time to enjoy and health that allowed such enjoyment, Time to actually be a part of a childs upraising, time to build even more significant relationship and memories, time to experience life without the pressures. Then at 50, work til its over, escaping to enjoy grandkids and reflect on all the shit that went down in the previous years. Crime would go way down as there would be less temptation to lure a person into wrongdoing, those who did, would start their sentence early on, lol. just a thought, sounds like it would be great, but Im sure there would be many pitfalls.

The kind of stuff you are talking about I only experienced when I was 15... I had this BF who I was with for a very long time and we had sex for days at a time.. Just taking a break to eat and smoke and take naps.
In my 20s I worked 70 hours a week and never really got to have fun and was too tired for sex most of the time, but I managed to squeeze in some dating.
I got divorced 4 years ago and while it was hard at first on all of us, it is pretty good now because they kids get time with each of us and each of us gets time off alone.
This weekend the kids are with dad and my fianc and I have a lot of time to spend with each other and focus on us, sex, talk about whatever.. My sex life is better now than it has ever been since I was 15.

tossed: Yeah, the "delayed work" you're talking about applies to all forms of pleasure, not just sex. I floundered in my 20s, was allowed to live with parents, rent-free, not because I wasn't willing to work, but because no job seemed to exist that allowed me to excel at a skillset that I enjoyed and pay well enough to live on. Laziness had its rewards, up to a point, when it became crippling.

A buddy of mine had to work 40+ hours a week plus be there for his parents who ultimately succumbed to cancer before he was 21. In short, he had to grow up fast. Now, consequently, he's attempting to live out his "childhood", in a decrepid, rapidly aging body that is 40 years old (fucked-up knee, fucked-up finger, fucked-up back). I'm trying to get him to join me for some bike-riding.

Guess life isn't fair sometimes.

koolman, you sound like a really good egg - hugs