Maybe hearing HER moans and feeling HER quivering convulsions is required to send you over the edge!

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You sound like a generous guy, concerned about HER pleasure more than yours! We'll see what the ladies have to say...

I would go to the doctor, if you think it's a problem.

I think there is more than a women just laying there to help a guy cum too. They have to let you know they are satisfied and it is your turn. I am sure there are "selfish" things you know that turn you on more. Maybe share these with your lady friends and when it is your turn she can be there for you. You do sound like you are just very worried about pleading them which is very nice. I would love that, but I also want to make my guy climax too.

The only time it really bothers me is when it causes a problem with a girl I'm dating. The last girl that I was dating exclusively made a big fuss about it. She actually got mad at me. She did everything that she could think of to make me come. Never happened with her. I think a lot of it had to do with the pressure of her wanting me to so badly. She was beautiful, tight, and knew what she was doing. I loved having sex with her until me not coming became a big issue.

She broke up with me after many attempts to make me come. She told me that she didn't feel like she was good enough and broke up with me. It made me mad because I liked her for more than just sex. I guess she didn't feel the same.

Ok. Yes, pressure (of her wanting you to) can have something to do with it.

It may be too late now, but did you (or would you consider in the future) helping your partner to orgasm before you have actual intercourse with her? That can make it easier on her to orgasm during....

That's all I have for now except that I know you're not the only person with this problem.

I always make sure that girl comes before we do anything. It's a part of for play with me

I don't see your issue as a problem :-)

Keep some lube around. It can help keep the girl from getting sore. She can also enjoy it more. During to 20-30 minutes make sure you change things around some. Find out what feels good for both of you.

I'd like to say maybe you were freaked about making a kid, but if you came AFTER her, and came inside her, this wasn't an issue. Sorry for the woes. Yeah, she must've been getting dry after she came, and as a result, sore.

It would be great if all guys were as attentive to pleasing their partner as you are . I don't see a problem .

The main problem I have is when I feel like I've had enough and she is still trying to make me come when I know that I won't. I always stay hard. I feel satisfied even though I haven't came but she feels inadequate because I didn't. It's weird but I always hit a point when I know that I am just not going to come, usually because I have to pea. When that happens I'm done.

Hmm.. If you are close enough to have sex, then you are close enough to talk about this ahead of time!
As a girl, if I was in this situation, I would feel more "ok" about it if I knew ahead of time. Then I know it isn't me.
Communication is so important.

Yeah I usually tell them that prior to sex. I guess it just depends on the person whether it's offensive or not.

I doubt it is offensive. Just probably makes the person feel like they can't please you. It could bruise an ego if you never came during sex.

I think a lot would also depend on how long you knew each other and how much you were emotionally connected before you have sex.