Wanting to be choked is not unusual, it intensifies orgasms but it's very dangerous. There is no safe way to do breath play. Choking is cutting off the oxygen supply to the brain which messes up the blood chemistry and can cause brain damage, can cause heart attack (even in young healthy people). You or she has no way of knowing at what point it's going to cause severe damage, possibly death. Even an experienced breath player has no way of knowing what is to much.

As for rough sex or even more than rough sex, that's not unusual at all but it needs to be done safely, breath play can't be done safely.

If she wants to feel your strength, there are a lot of ways that can be accomplished but are done safely.

If she likes rough sex, you like slower sex, talk about it and each of you compromise. Her way one time, your way the next and somewhere in-between another time.

I agree with Leather, there are other ways. One such way is to lay on the bed and have her riding on top of you. With just your arms, lift her completely in the air, up and down, like she's your own personal toy. Now THAT would be impressive AND you both live.

STROKE.

HEART FAILURE.

BRAIN DAMAGE.

IMNSHO, it is just not worth it. I would draw the line at breath-play. And no, you are not prude for not wanting to do something so dangerous.

I enjoy rough sex sometimes but I don't understand the choking part. Just something I won't do since it's very dangerous as I learned in hand to hand combat in the military.

many people enjoy this practice. my husband has asked me to do it also, but it scares me too much. I HATE the feeling of suffocating. i dont even like having a blanket over my face. but it is not really that strange. it is just uncomfortable for some.

I love rough sex it turns me on quicker than usual. I would say it's pretty normal and compromise like others said above is good. And if you have rough sex all the time it kinda looses the shine.

There's nothing wrong with rough sex, as long as you keep things safe. It's not particularly unusual for a woman to enjoy feeling a man's strength, heterosexual men and women tend to be attracted to what they don't have, and women tend to be smaller and less robust than men.

Erotic asphyxiation, though, while not an unheard-of preference by any means, is very dangerous, and I would strongly recommend against it.

I agree that breath play is dangerous and can be fatal.

Personally I love choking. It was something that I wasn't sure I ever wanted to try but I love it. I love being choked or choking my fiance...even if my hands are on the smaller side.

If it makes you uncomfortable you should tell her though.

If she wants to feel your strength, can't you squeeze her ass the same way?

I agree, choking is dangerous. If you're choking too hard, she won't be able to tell you, because her larynx is constricted! Find another way to get your freak on, girlie.

"Find another way to get your freak on, girlie." -Directed at his Girlfriend

id think id ever ask 2 b choked but id like my hair pulled slightly while im gettin it from behind

I went to a training on domestic violence, and watched a video of a man who choked his girlfriend until she passed out. It only took eight seconds for this to happen. The danger to the person who is choked may linger longer than just that initial time. I would not do this, as it is just too dangerous.

So true Tracy and the person doesn't even have to get to the point of passing out for serious damage to occur.