Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I've tried talking to my therapist about this and she was a little bit helpful. She even gave me a book to try and help me break the ice about the subject, but I didn't really know how to approach him on the matter, so I didn't. I don't want him to think that I think there is something wrong with him or that I'm not satisfied, because I'm not. My boyfriend doesn't last very long in bed. I'm not bothered by it at all. I just get worked up to a certain point, and then he's finished, but I'm not. My friends talked to him once about sex indiscretely and then that same night he wanted to try a different sex position because he'd never tried it before. It may be rude of me to assume, but I don't think he has had sex before his last girlfriend. Advice? I'm not that experienced either, but the people who I have been with were so that's why I'm not sure about how to go about this.
to tackle it we should separate the issues and make em clear >:)
ive had a guy who was a soldier, he hasnt had it for MONTHS... when we fucked, he came right after 12 pushes? i mean.... what???
look at it this way, maybe hes too turned on by you :)
but to help the dude, try making him wear a condom? try a thick one first to reduce the sensitivity. then I hear there are sensitivity reducing creams out there? never tried it.
ugh i feel bad that thats all i can think of... i really should ask this guy i know. we have sex for like 3 hours whenever hmmmmmm
My advise is to open that door of communication. These can be uncomfortable things to talk about, and ego's regarding sex can be pretty fragile.... but to NOT talk about it will only end in resentment and the eventual decline of the relationship.
Depending on the woman, more foreplay may be required, or external stimulation of the clit during sex.
Or, if he simply cannot last long enough... then possibly showing him what to do after he is done to manually get you through it might the right choice.
Practice makes perfect.