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In my fifties and enjoying some firsts

newdrake308
newdrake308
I am new to the BDSM lifestyle at a rather advanced age. I have a most enjoyable and experienced play partner and close personal friend. Just recently for the first time I entertained me allowing myself to participate in anal play. Basically I consented to her playing that way with me. I never thought I would enjoy it but I did.

Also in my more than fifty years of life I to my recollection have never until now had a full day of lying in bed nude together and enjoying each others company so very very much. I told her I am wishing to replace memories of loneliness with bliss. That includes along with hers and mine the bliss of others gracious enough to share it in my home. I do believe I have found myself and I like the things I am finding out in the process.
OkieMan
OkieMan
Kudos to you man! That's a feel-good story and happy for you. Nice post and nice fish!
Joe100
Joe100
Start doing romantic things for her and fix whatever is broken at her place. Listen to her.

Once in awhile DONT be available and ignore her.
Skwerl
Skwerl
It's a fun rabbit hole to be falling down, isn't it? (No pun intended)

It's amazing how much we start to find and accept ourselves when we're open minded and just explore without judgement. Especially all the things that are buried deep down; They're all part of what makes us who we are!
Enjoy!
awesomeself
awesomeself
Glad you're enjoying yourself!
And Joe, was your post misplaced? I don't think he was asking for any advice - he's happy.
MrMG
MrMG
When I was in my 20's I dreaded getting old. I just couldn't see myself having sex with an old woman. When I was 32 I started dating a 20 yr old. She turned out to be a nympho and practically wore me out. Three years later I married my wife. My first, her second. After 20 years I can say with confidence that there is sex after 50. It may not be as often and I have to take a little blue pill but there seems to be a freedom that I never experienced when I was so young. Perhaps it was the fear of getting someone pregnant or the fact that so many partners were one night stands or brief encounters. I've gained weight, my wife too. I still have my hair, and she says that I have a nice ass and great muscle tone. But instead of finishing in 20 minutes we take an hour or more of just enjoying each other's company and love. So for all of you kids out there, there is sex after 50 and it is might Great!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I so agree MrMG. One of my fears when I was younger was the fear of getting old(er) and sex being a thing of the past with hearing all the horror stories of being in menopause, losing sex drive, losing sexual arousal and enjoyment. I'm 55, I've been in menopause since I was 49 and nothing has changed with me sexually, still have my high sex drive, my sexual response system is still wired as good as ever and I don't see me losing any of it until my ashes are blowing in the wind. Partner is 51 and is still going strong.