Patricia, If I may say it has been my experience. That most divorced people are so afraid to fall victims again that they over think and project too much and don't stay in the moment and enjoy it for what it is. You must learn to fully enjoy yourself again without thinking of the what ifs...You will probably never find the perfect relationship (few do) but allow yourself to enjoy what you do have at the moment. In time you may feel differently.

Patricia I agree with everything Yorman1 said and I would like to add something. Another aspect of the divorce game. You were use to things being a certain way in your relationship. So when you got divorced everything changed and no two lovers are the same. I know speaking for myself that it felt good to be with someone after my divorce, because it made me feel wanted and desired and those were felling that I never thought I would have again, but it wore off and I found myself bored with certain lovers. I am not the type of person to end a relationship based on just sexual feelings. The relationships ended anyway for other reasons, but I was happy to move on.
I would say you need to ask yourself if your needs are being met? I don't mean just in bed either. It all mental and if your the one putting forth the effort in the relationship and getting very little back than it will burn you out and take away your sex drive.

I wish you luck! Message me any time if you want to talk more.

Afraid of being hurt, lose passion, yes, I've had this issue. All I can say is IN the hurt, UNDER the hurt, is joy and pleasure. We have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. No pain, no gain.