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marytcontrary 08/29/2015

We still talk and email and I'm glad. I knew about when his birthday was but not the exact date. He gave me a hint yesterday and I know when it is now.
We do talk honestly about many things, not just sex or related subjects. He is nice to me that is why I don't want to lose a friendship. I think he does like me as a friend.

LivingWater 08/30/2015

It's great if you can have a friend. But be sure you can accept that. It's emotionally painful when one feels only friendship and the other is hoping for love (or at least FWB). As for these guys who say they can't or won't accept "a fat chick", they can change their minds--but don't hold your breath waiting!

marytcontrary 08/31/2015

I am not sure if I'm too fat to be FWB. It is hard to tell. He said once a few months ago, there might be a chance. Maybe I am the one holding back?

LivingWater 08/31/2015

We women desire love. It's in our nature. To make oneself available as FWB if we care about a man and he just wants to use us, it leads to heartbreak and loss of self-respect. I just wish you could forget about this guy!

LisaACOA 09/02/2015

Hi Everyone! It has been a long time since I have posted.

I totally agree with LivingWater. I don't think you would ever feel good about yourself around him. I know I wouldn't want to be intimate with someone who felt the way he does.

MsViv 09/02/2015

Waving at Lisa. How are you. I've missed you and so many others!!!!!!!!

marytcontrary 09/02/2015

There is a reason I don't want to drop this guy. We get along great as long as we stay this way--friends. I dated once another guy. For a while after he hooked up with a horrible woman, I stayed in touch just enough to let him know I was still on earth. Then she told me off using his phone.(a mutual friend told me it was her and not him). They had a huge break up last year. He came to the store and told me how great I was looking that day. He and I have talked a few times since. We are getting along but don't see each other much. I think by not throwing him away is why he felt he could talk to me again. He is no earthshakingly hunk but he is a nice guy. It is his move next like the other guy. I can't throw any body away that I would like as a friend. That is just me.

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