Toss...this is NOT a lame question and I am sure there are many people on here that can relate. I have no great wisdom but I will be watching this thread with interest.

I don't think it is a lame question either. I think it is great that you were able to express that.

I hope I have sex before I forget how. lol

Here is a book that a good friend of mine recommended to me. There is a lot of good information in it that might help in restoring your confidence. This book discusses many ways to help get yourself ready for a new relationship...very insightful.

http://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-Secret-Manifest-Love-Attraction/dp/006169696X

Tossed, that is lame. Lame, lame, lame, lame, lame.

Nah, just messin'. I could definitely see what you're talking about. It's kind of like...the greater the gap between speaking in public, the more nervous you get. Or, the greater the gap between trying a 360 alley-oop slam dunk, the more doubtful you'll be that you can pull it off.

All you can do, just like a kid who's going to ask for his very first date, is to just go forward and do it. What's the WORST that can happen?

I'm thinking meet Lisa and buy her a cup of coffee., You never know.

lol @ Itson

Stop laughing at me, I get embarrassed easily.,,lol,,,,

I think Okie is spot on in his comment,,,,LAME,,,,NO, I'm kidding , His serious comment.

I definitely had those feelings. Being sexual with stbxh for 29 years, almost my whole adult life, knowing him inside out and upside down, knowing his ways, his needs, his expectations brought up a lot of questions in my mind especially when I started talking to partner on-line and by phone.

I didn't know if I could start all over from scratch, learning a new partner's ways, his expectations, his needs or if I'd even be able to accept and adjust to someone else's ways or him to my ways.

My biggest fear when we were finally going to meet in person was wondering since we're "older", will we both be so dead set in our own ways and what we're used to, will we be able to bend to meet each other's needs and expectations sexually and in every other part of the relationship.

Stbxh and partner are similar in some ways but they're very different in many ways.

The most important part for us was being able to very openly communicate with each other about our sexual needs/expectations and relationship needs/expectations.

The older I get, the more I am coming to the conclusion that I will not meet a person to have a relationship
Sad, but it is what it is.

i think that it is all of us. none of us have had any really spectacular sex to talk about recently. usually i am at least having regular sex a few times a week and THAT isnt even happening right now. i think i have had sex 2 times in the passed...hmmm....2 and half weeks? 3 weeks? and not great sex either. just rushed, in the shower sex so i can get hubs back into his sling.

tossed....it's like riding a bike.
it all comes back to you once you get back on it.

if anything, i'd think when that time comes, it would be exciting.

don't ever question your ability to romance because that stuff comes from the heart.

When you find the right one you will appreciate her even more.

Thank you all for your replies
Consensus, seems to indicate my fears are misguided.

Thanks mobi, last time I give you props in a thread lol