Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
So we used to have sex a lot. Like 2-3 times a day. We are early twenties. Then we had a threesome with his ex, and him and her started this friends with benefits thing for a month or so and it didnt end well. I was ok with it. We both have different needs sexually, both of us are strictly submissive and although I try to be dominant for him, I'm not very good at it and he doesn't try to be dominant at all so I used to have a guy on the side, for nsa sex only...
Well, recently we've had sex less and less. And now, we've had sex 3 times in three weeks, 2 of which he didn't bother waiting for me to orgasm when he usually ALWAYS waits for me to orgasm at least once before he cums.
I mentioned going to see my old friend with benefits the other night and he tripped on me saying that the guy (who is in a relationship with another woman who cant have sex for medical reasons) wants more than just sex from me. Its not true, and I dont get why he reacted that way. I didn't go.
Tonight, he was looking at porn on my laptop and was super horny. We started having sex on our couch and he said his neck was hurting (he was on bottom, which is usually how it is) so we moved to the floor with a blanket thrown down. He asked if I wanted him on top, and first his excuse was the blanket was sliding under us, then was like whatever and got on top only to find that he couldn't get erect anymore. I gave up after doing everything I could think of to get him ready to go... Finally I gave up and got dressed. He kept apologizing... But it didn't seem sincere... Now he's sleeping on the floor by himself, didn't want to come join me. I'm sure he'll masturbate after I'm asleep.....
I just don't know what to do anymore. Maybe he wants to fuck his ex and not me.... Maybe I'm not good enough for him anymore.... I have a very high sex drive, and not having sex anymore is driving me crazy. Its causing major strain on our marriage, and he thinks that I'm only with him for sex now which isn't true... So I cant even approach the subject without him freaking out on me or feeling bad...
Well, recently we've had sex less and less. And now, we've had sex 3 times in three weeks, 2 of which he didn't bother waiting for me to orgasm when he usually ALWAYS waits for me to orgasm at least once before he cums.
I mentioned going to see my old friend with benefits the other night and he tripped on me saying that the guy (who is in a relationship with another woman who cant have sex for medical reasons) wants more than just sex from me. Its not true, and I dont get why he reacted that way. I didn't go.
Tonight, he was looking at porn on my laptop and was super horny. We started having sex on our couch and he said his neck was hurting (he was on bottom, which is usually how it is) so we moved to the floor with a blanket thrown down. He asked if I wanted him on top, and first his excuse was the blanket was sliding under us, then was like whatever and got on top only to find that he couldn't get erect anymore. I gave up after doing everything I could think of to get him ready to go... Finally I gave up and got dressed. He kept apologizing... But it didn't seem sincere... Now he's sleeping on the floor by himself, didn't want to come join me. I'm sure he'll masturbate after I'm asleep.....
I just don't know what to do anymore. Maybe he wants to fuck his ex and not me.... Maybe I'm not good enough for him anymore.... I have a very high sex drive, and not having sex anymore is driving me crazy. Its causing major strain on our marriage, and he thinks that I'm only with him for sex now which isn't true... So I cant even approach the subject without him freaking out on me or feeling bad...
Turn to each other for the help you need, not turn away from each other..talking thinks out is very helpful.
I wish you both luck..
It is not uncommon for sexual frequency to slow down somewhat after a relationship has developed. It doesn't necessarily mean that the partner is less sexually attractive than they once were. Communication in the bedroom is so important. Both partners should be comfortable being completely open with one another and should be able to express if their needs are not being met or if they need something different in order to feel fulfilled.
Open relationships can be difficult. Both partners need to be on board and boundaries have to be established. If both parties cannot agree, it is a set up for disaster which can lead to jealousy, anger, and resentment.
So my advice would be to try to talk to him, see if you can work out the issues and if that doesn't help, counselling could be very beneficial. It is imperative that you both lay out your true feelings and your needs on the table in order to work toward resolution of the problems.
Best of luck!
Still, it doesn't sound like something that can't be worked out and then possibly things in bed can be even better than they were before.
Anyways.
Some times i would hit a point where I would need a break. maybe for a few days. Some days I would feel like a peice of meat. She was bisexual and we had sex with others. I loved it.. I kinda miss it even now. Give him some space,
Oh yeah My ex had some awsome sex toys..
I'm of the opinion that SOMEONE needs to be dominant in a sexual relationship. Otherwise, as you've seen, nothing happens.
Wish I had more to offer; sorry, I got nuttin'.
I think you need to be courted for awhile and stay out of the bedroo
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Date him
Date your fwb
Date somebody