The fact you guys are open and honest is great! Maybe if you start it? example: He’s doing what he is doing (watching tv or whatever) you’re in the mood so maybe go get yourself ready (sexy undies/outfit) and come out and start playing with him and being all sexy and get him into the mood.

I mean it’s so strange that these days women have to chance the men for sex but even my partner (who by the way has the higher sex drive) wants me to do the work to start it. Doesn’t happen all the time but it’s not like he tries

Try to be spontaneous to add excitement. Driving down the road, initiate sex. At a party or public outing, sneak away to a private place. What I'm trying to get across, dont wait for just the bedroom.

My issue is similar to yours, my drive is higher than my husbands and it bothers me sometimes. I do most of the initiating and it gets tiresome. I would love for him to initiate more and show me that he is attracted to me. At least your husband was willing to go to the doctor to see if there was any medical issue. Mine just tells me he’s getting old and he’s tired.

Hey hello sweetie. Has been quite a bit since last time I was in here and when I read your post is like I saw my self in the mirror.
I don’t think that is something you can do to change the situation between you guys if your hubby doesn’t want to do anything. At least from my experience.
I want sex every day or at least as much as I can have and my “wife “ doesn’t want at All.
She accused me for being abnormal cause I like sex and want every day almost and she is ok with once a month.
This situation is years now and the only change is for worst not for better.
My solution::
Porn and masturbation . Lately I am thinking of finding a girl in the similar situation and have fun until the divorce time is right.
I have tried every fucking thing a human been can do and nothing works.
Wasting time thinking how and what can I do to improve our relationship.
Nothing
Do not let anybody to say that you have the problem. No is not fucking true.
We do not choose to have high or low sexual drive. Is part of us . We can not fight that desire for sex is not possible.
So my advice is enjoy your self. Find someone to give you what you are missing. Staying in this kind of marriage is sucks unless you want to sacrifice your self just to be an ok wife cause our society moral required us to be there with our partners even they don’t give a shit about us .
Now if your hubby has a healthy issue that’s another story.
Anyway you have all my love and support.
If you want we can contact each other and share experiences and talk.
Hugs