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how to stimulate my husband for him to climax

janeyang13810
janeyang13810
Hi All,

I would like to know how to stimulate my husband's penis to help him climax. It takes him a long time. Without going into too much details, his erection can last 45 minutes or longer. I can manually and orally stimulate him for 20, 30 minutes and he does not climax. Advice suggestions greatly appreciated.

He does not wish to see a doctor.
gentlehands1960
gentlehands1960
Are you varying techniques to get him off?

Is that length of time bad for you if having intercourse or just hands and oral?
dsf95
dsf95
Have you tried being on top for a while?

Oral technique I made up: the corkscrew. While applying suction, go around the head of the penis with tongue, especially the back of the penis.

He could sit in a chair and you could straddle him.

Try a nice hotel. Change of scenery is exciting. Watch a racy movie just wearing robes in bed , eat takeout in the room.
janeyang13810
janeyang13810
I have tried being on top. It's easy for me to climax when I'm on top during coitus.

Is there a sensitive area of the penis that I ought to be stimulating? He is circumcized.

Is there an educational/instructional video? I am totally serious.
dsf95
dsf95
Of course the head of the penis is most sensitive, but that may not lead to climax alone. There are lots of books, The Joy of Sex is a classic. Go to the naughty section at Barnes and Noble.

I hate to mention this, but I had a friend in college whose bf wouldn't climax during sex with her. He would only orgasm with his own hand afterwards. It turned out he preferred men or was at least bi. That doesn't mean it's the same situation with you.
billwfriend
billwfriend
sounds like he could easily become a porn star with being able to last that long....head of penis is the sensitive area...oral might help too...tongue on the head moving like corkscrew...hugs
janeyang13810
janeyang13810
thanks for the support and replies.
@billwfriend, how long am I supposed to do the tongue/corkscrew before he climaxes?
janeyang13810
janeyang13810
I'm new to dailystrength.org and unsure of how this works.

I am wondering if I am in the correct place.

What is the difference between My Support Groups and My Groups? I guess I'm trying to figure out how to navigate this site.

Helpful suggestions would be greatly appreciated. TIA.

Jane
cowboy357
cowboy357
If 45 min is the shortest than I think he's lucky with that..
When we first got together our sex ran into hours, with multiple orgasms for both of us , & or long periods of sex until orgasm for me.That was fine for us when we 1st got together when we were healthier..
About 4 yrs ago for a few yrs orgasm was rare b/c of my medications. , Now I have that problem pretty much solved..

There's a lot of times I wish I could release in that short of time
(45 min.) or less mainly due to my wife's pain issues & sometimes mine.
She's had 3 failed spinal surgery's so she's in severe pain most of the time, but still enjoys & desires sex.
I've had many serious injuries which give me full body pain But The good part still works great! Too good at times.lol

If your hubby masturbates a lot have him stop for a week or 2 you should see a change in his time .If he masterbates His penis would b used to his hand 's pressure, speed, wet/dryness ect. so orgasm with you'd be a different pace for his penis...

Is he on medications ? or did he just naturaly train himself to last longer like some of us do?
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