first off, stop judging your self-worth based on what others are doing. you wouldn't say "my car isn't worth anything because everybody else is driving nice cars". don't do it with your self-worth

secondly, we live in a world filled with technology. internet dating is a big thing, and often can help people to see your personality before you actually meet up. it would be something to look into.

third, a quick glance at your profile shows that you have some anxiety and depression issues. these are things that definitely impact self-confidence. talking to a therapist or attending a local support group for something like that would help you to A. meet people, and B. give you some ideas on how to raise your self-confidence

Fading makes a lot of good points. First off, when I was 33, I had only had sex with one person and I didn't think it was abnormal. Let me ask, if your friends were females and slept with a lot of people, what would they be called? Easy? Sleazy? Sl*t? Ho? Still admire those friends? If they are dating and sleeping with that many people, maybe they need to be more selective.

Will you still admire them when they have a STD? What if it's HIV? That lifestyle is not admirable Mc. I have more admiration for someone that hasn't slept with very many people, just telling you how one female views things.

When all your friends are dropping dead of HIV, you'll be glad you only had sex once.

A GF doesn't make you a man. How you feel about yourself, strength, character, the way you carry yourself, how you develop yourself physically and mentally, make you a man.

I think you need a plan. And the plan doesn't have to all happen in one day.

1. Make a list of activities you could learn that girls like. Cooking is an awesome one.
2. Make a list of jobs you could strive to have to make you more money. (Girls like money and stability)
3. Join a gym and spend at try to hit Free weights slowly increasing what you can do over time. Aim for 6 hours a week to start.
4. Meetup.com is an awesome place to meet people. Try and go on at least 1 meetup a week. Over time regulars will get to know you and girls aren't that scared of you anymore because they have spent time with you.
5. Consider working on the clothes you wear and the car you drive. (if you live in a city) The car doesn't have to be expensive it just can't be a boring Nerd car. Try for something a little manly.
6. Limit the amount of porn you watch to a lot less. This will make you more interested in women from a 1 on 1 standpoint because your not getting off so often.

More later
Good luck

And to add to that list if you want to go to a gym and can't afford it the local Y is free

Try changing where you have been looking if you really think having a gf is important. I personally believe that you have to be happy with yourself in order to attract other people. Confidence is very important. Work on being comfortable with yourself, & everything else will fall in place. Hang in there- it will get better, stay positive. :)

Sexual encounters do not define your masculinity.

You sound really down on yourself, when you feel more confident with yourself You exude more and you are a stronger presence.

Don't forget - people will lie about their sexual experiences too. Both men and women, they will add or subtract numbers.

Sex is better when you FEEL for the other person. It doesn't necessarily have to be love Just a connection.

The fact that you need someone makes you unappealing to the opposite sex. If you're happy with yourself and not always worrying about being alone, if you look happy, people will notice. That's hard to do, I definitely know how lonely you feel.
You need to do what makes you happy and stop thinking about how pathetic you are. The only thing that makes you pathetic is you thinking you are.
I don't know if you understand what I'm trying to say.
I want you to do something that makes you proud of yourself.
You have just put yourself in idle. Your mind is running in dark places that it shouldn't be. Your causing yourself to be unhappy. Stop it.

I have come to the conclusion that we don't want to venture too far out of our own comfort zones, and we don't want our mate to venture too far out of their comfort zones. In short, go and do what makes you happy, then talk to girls who happen to be along those travels.

While it's true that we have to do something out of ordinary routines if we're not meeting anyone in our ordinary routines, venturing too far out of our comfort zones only makes us feel like we're living a lie...just to get laid. A mate has to practically fall into our laps!

It's not only about getting laid...it's about falling in and STAYING in LOVE (which physical sex is certainly a part of)! You've got to find comfort and enjoyment just within your own soul. Then...welcome another in with some warm jokes.

thank you for all the replies. i do agree that i need to accept who i am and be comfortable with me before i can really be ready. i have tried many things to help me. I guess im an introvert, dont like to go out in public much and if i do i feel different. having a gf was a good feeling that someone liked me for me. she would get upset when i asked her what she saw in me. just cause my friends have had alot of sex dosnt make it right for me, just would like to fit in somewhere. thank you for not judging me

I've known quite a few 'hermits' who've met mr. or mrs. right.
Most of them at home online. Ilike most of ppl's responses here.
Online dating can be a great way to find a mate.
I was quite 'outgoing' meeting women that weren't who I was looking for in a relationship (permenant). in bars & ect.

I was still going out but gave up & enjoyed my single life for a bit. My current wife had also given up on a mr. right too.
She & I had quit looking for dates around the same time.

we both had joined a poetry site the same week.
I had posted 1 of my poems on the site & she
complimented on it. A looong compliment,lol

That's where we met, 3 days after talkin online & 2 days on the phone I asked for a pic of her, It wasn't a big deal to me at the time.
I learned from experience it's who you are that counts.
12 days after her 1st comment on my poem.
I packed up my car for a few day visit & never left her.
Still together almost 10 yrs later.

You don't have to join a dating site, it may help.
But don't get obsessed with finding a mate.
Like n love yourself enjoy life
& mate should sail your way! Aye Mate!