Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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ChemLogic89
ChemLogic89

Hi.  Brand new to dailystrength.  I joined this group because my sexual history is a messy one.  I've a bad habit of rushing into romantic/sexual relationships.  I meet a cute girl, with the intention of a strictly platonic relationship, and I can't seem to help seeking a sexual relationship with them.  I've lost friends and girlfriends over the years because of this terrible habit.  Of course I want to be in a romantic and sexual relationship, but rushing into one has never worked out long-term for me.  And I'd love to learn to have platonic relationships with women, too.  Anyone else in the same boat?

patternskies
patternskies
Well, you are a young man, and you're acting like a young man. Penis first. Once you mature and learn to not act on impulse things will become easier. I'm not trying to insult you, or call you immature, but you're rushing for the sex part first like it's some kindof drug. Perhaps the impulsion is something you need to explore further in therapy?
patternskies
patternskies
It might also be like a bad habit, something you need to unlearn and work through.
Emerald0743
Emerald0743
Hi! I have a problem with being a serial monogamous. Im working on that right now Im just Casually hanging out with someone right now I have a lot of fun there is no expectations and no pressure and we do hook up I guess it could be classified as friends with benifits but I use to rush into relationships too and I have decided that Im just going to go with the flow .im young 28 and in no rush to be tied down I want to enjoy my freedom and let the cards fall into place

comming from a similar place I say just meet women and talk to them thats the best way to get friends and if more comes about just go with the flow I know there is a stigma about FWB but I feel you will know when you find the person you want to be tied down to in the meantime there is nothing wrong with meeting and getting to know women and being attracted to them as long as you dont lead them on or lead them to believe you are exclusive when you are not ...best of luck