Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
My room mate is extremely hot. She is very sexually active too. While me in both departments , not so much. I am being a good friend and room mate and encouraging her to pursue her own happiness within the bounds of safety and reason. I do not want to be attracted her but I cannot stop it. How do I condition myself to not be attracted to her ??? Is this even possible. She needs me and my friendship. She needs the room I rent to her at a very affordable rate. What is there that can be done ??? Sometimes I really hate myself for feeling this way. And yes I am in counselling.
Have you talked to her about your attraction to her? Perhaps some good communication between the two of you can help you resolve the situation ... and perhaps the resolution is that she can no longer be your roommate. I know this is probably NOT what you want, but it may be for the best.
it's kind of like the same thing as not going out with someone who works at your office. it's all fun and games in the beginning, but then if things don't work out, you're still stuck seeing them everyday.
i'd keep it "just friends".
Sounds like fun, but with games.
I know the "so cute it actually hurts" feeling. What I do in those situations is to play out the likely outcome in my head and compare it to the heartbreak I have gotten in the past. Remembering that feeling, and knowing that would likely be the result gets me over it.
That and you could try masturbation. If you aren't that anxious, her appearance is less likely to get to you.