My husband and I separated last year, although we haven't officially been divorced yet. He cheated on me, he was having sex with a 27-year-old, A co-worker of his, and I finally figured it out after several months.

It was roughly 4 months after our separation when I had sex with a friend of mine, not only that but a friend of his as well. I only did it with him once, I was worried that being with him more often would create problems in the long run.

Right now what I consider "healthy sex" is hopscotching from one partner to another, not having a relationship with any guy specifically but feeling good knowing that I am being intimate with somebody. My husband was the one who started all of this, he was the one who cheated on me, and I guess in my mind's eye I feel like sleeping with multiple men makes me feel like I'm cheating on him ten times more than he did.

But I was a virgin when I married my husband, and here I am now knowing that I have had sex with eight men in just the last 5 months. I don't feel bad about it, part of me is happy that I've doing it and part of me feels better knowing that I'm living the kind of life that I could have had if I was never married.

And it's also a bit of an adventure, going out and maybe finding a guy that night and sleeping with him. I'm very safe, I don't just sleep with anybody, and I also don't play games with them either and tell them that I love them and all that crap. Maybe healthy sex for me is simply feeling like I'm real instead of being stuck in a box?

I guess I'm only sharing all this because maybe there are others out there that are like me. I always felt like marriage was the perfect life, that having one partner was the perfect life, and yet now I've had eight and I feel like I'm better than ever, dare I say more in control?

I posted in the breakups and divorce section on here as well, just in case you want to read the rest of my story.

What is healthy? I guess that is the question.