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Have you ever had?

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
A love so strong that your biggest concern in life was the happiness of your SO and they with you to the point where you lived your life through each other? Had alot in common with total honesty and absorbed with each other and in each other?

That happen to me once many years ago........for about an hour.......and I had to pay for it...... so is was not real but I can't help but wonder how awesome that would be if we could attain that in real life....kinda like heaven on earth!

Know what I mean?
deleted_user
deleted_user
That to me would be very smothering and obsessive.

We love each other very much, we want the other to be happy not only happy with each other and in the relationship but have our own happiness within ourselves that has nothing to do with having a partner. We are completely honest with each other, can talk openly about anything and everything, we have a lot in common but we have enough differences that I believe is needed in a relationship (I don't want to be with a clone of me, he doesn't want to be with a clone of him), we're involved in each other's lives very much so but also have our own activities, friends, independence.

I don't believe a partner/relationship should *be* your happiness or be your life, it should add to your life and your happiness.
TheAnthemOfTheAngels
TheAnthemOfTheAngels
ditto to what leather said.
tossedaside
tossedaside
Bob, I tend to believe a lot of relationships are exactly what you describe for a very short time. Euphoric in many aspects, yet fleeting. The onset, seems each is putting their best foot forward, polite,courteous,respectful, etc etc. Then as time passes, the real person emerges, and what was once believed to be bliss reveals itself as infatuation. Jmo

Agreeing with the ladies, concerning smothering. I think we need to maintain our individuality while meshing our strengths and beliefs to overcome inadequacies. Easy to complete a couple when both are new, invigorated and wanting of each other. I hope for the love that is still there, when indifference would be easier. Again jmo.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think I get what you mean. It's kinda like when you see a couple in their 80's holding hands and calling each other honey.
I think it would be awesome to have a relationship like that!
If both people are happy like that whats the problem?
deleted_user
deleted_user
That happen to me with one of my married lovers and it made me realize how unhappy I was in life and how happy I could be if i would meet that man earlier. Before that I was very satisfied with my life. That made me feel that my life was all wrong and irreparable. I gues it was love from first site. Who needed that sh... after 7 years of marriage and stable life which I thought was happy. Why staff like that happens in wrong time. I did not want to live after that because i could not have it and could not change my life.
BedHog
BedHog
I would say I have had the unhealthy version of having my SO's happiness be my biggest concern. It was not reciprocated, however.

Through a bit of therapy and lots of soul searchig I hope I am over that phase in my life.
MadameXXX
MadameXXX
It's called co-dependency. Yes, I was in that viscious cycle and it is very hard to break out of. I find that people like us with addictive personalities, ie. alcohol etc get addicted to whatever makes us feel good, and that may be and usually is someone who is not good for us because we need them too much.