Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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Guilt

koolman
koolman
Does anyone here (male or female) ever question their own whoreish nature? I mean, we're all afraid of STDs, but, even if not for physical danger, is there also spiritual danger? I mean, is thinking about sex too much spiritually destructive to our souls? I find myself wanting to retain SOME part of my heart that is pure and innocent, while not wanting to entirely be a saint either, because I feel like I'm missing out on fun!
koolman
koolman
Part of the problem is I don't currently have an SO. If I did, I'd feel guilty about NOT thinking about sex-!
soulsearcher83
soulsearcher83
I went through that for years and sometimes I think that I might take it too far (I know I have a few times in the past). But I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality now. Now I wish I'd get more!
deleted_user
deleted_user
The reason we are drawn to this group is because sex is a taboo topic, especially in the US. It is not polite to talk about sex so we have find outlets in other ways.

I think sex is very spiritual, connecting with someone on a whole different level-almost like your souls are touching...:)

Can you think about sex to much? I don't think so, but if you are worried about you innocence, just like healthy and unhealthy sex there are healthy and unhealthy thoughts about sex. It is all what you dwell on.
koolman
koolman
Yeah, I was raised Catholic, and, even though I haven't regularly attended Catholic church in over 20 years, the "guilt" that anything besides missionary-style sex or sex outside of marriage is a "sin" and I'm going to hell. I will say this--when I lust over girls I don't like AS PEOPLE, I do feel as though my spirit is disintegrating. I feel like a cheap, bottom-feeding whore. Maybe I should try to get to know a woman on a PERSONALITY level first, find something there that I truly adore, and then desire the hell out of her-?