Healthy Sex Support Group
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Was kicked in butt and clitoris by a man who knows martial arts and seemed to be targeting the clitoris last August. I think I was incapacitated for about 30 seconds and heard him say either softly "it's okay" or harshly "THAT was okay" my brain heard both at the same time. Not getting into the situation, because I obsessively posted about it, but he had some of the weakest reasons for a groin kick ever. I did get a little stimulated from it as well.
It hurt when I had a bowel movement for months. I get this scary sick feeling sometimes. Men I don't know and would have been attracted to before seem sexless and kind of threatening. I was having a problem with clitoral "erections" in the morning. I was being more exibitionistic. I couldn't sit still too long and still can't.
I feel like this person is probably going around ruining my reputation and it's so hard to stay away from him and his dance studio. I am so scared he will try to hurt me. I know this is irrational.
It hurt when I had a bowel movement for months. I get this scary sick feeling sometimes. Men I don't know and would have been attracted to before seem sexless and kind of threatening. I was having a problem with clitoral "erections" in the morning. I was being more exibitionistic. I couldn't sit still too long and still can't.
I feel like this person is probably going around ruining my reputation and it's so hard to stay away from him and his dance studio. I am so scared he will try to hurt me. I know this is irrational.
Maybe it was stimulating to you ? Maybe you have a fetish or are attracted to a BDSM style of sex? Every person is programmed differently and honestly what may turn someone on might not do anything for someone else.
It is very possible though that this situation could be arousing to you. I am no Dr. or therapist so this is just based on my opinions and research I have done on my own. You see people that go through sexual molestation or some sort of traumatic sexual experience often have a different outlook on sex in general. They are taught at a young age a dysfunctional sexual behavior. I have both lived this myself and see many people with different views of what normal sex is, because of trauma they learned at a young age. This usually follow's one of two patters and they are people being hyper sexual or the opposite and not being sexual at all. I am not saying all people fall into these catagories, but a large percentage do.
From a personal stand point therapy helped me to overcome my issues and without giving great detail discover what is a healthy sexual relationship, but then again that is based on a society norm of what acceptable and what isn't. There are many things that society rightfully disapproves of in my opinion.
Are you in therapy of any kind for your past trauma?
I guess in my mind arousal is so random to me that I couldn't relate to the dance instructor's feelings. I grew up with someone I had a fear response to, so I just thought he wanted me to leave him alone and stay out of his classes.
If you want to let it go then let it go.
Sending that link is only going to have him talk about how crazy you are to other people. You don't want him to ruin your reputation, yet you are playing with him.
It's odd if you ask me. Sounds like you may want him in your life.
From what you have posted about him, about you, about the situation, he does not want you in his life at all.
It seems best if you move on. Put it all behind you.
So... I should feel guilty about stalking someone who assaulted me and is a black belt and deliberately caused me bodily harm??? Cause I don't. He should be in jail. But I'll leave the poor little guy alone. For my sake, not his.