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Youve probably spent a considerable amount of time studying the female G-spot: How to find it, how to stimulate it and how to turn a woman into putty with a G-spot orgasm. What most men are far less familiar with is their own male G-spot. Thats right; some of you may be surprised to learn that the prostate is, essentially, the male equivalent of a womans G-spot -- and yours is far, far easier to find. We realize that, for some, the idea of exploring this area may be taboo, but if you keep an open mind while reading this article, our advice could lead you to one of the best orgasms you could ever hope for.
Read on as we give you the lowdown on the male G-spot and what it can do for your sex life.
Discovering your G-spot
The male G-spot isnt all that difficult to find, but it does require a little patience. Lying on your back is generally considered to be the most comfortable position for this, so youll probably want to make use of the bed or perhaps a large sofa. The process will be easiest with your legs elevated, which you can do by simply leaning your legs against the wall behind the bed or draping them over the back of the sofa. If youre still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under your bum.
Once youve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Most men enjoy having their taint (also known as the perineum) stimulated, and that can certainly be incorporated into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring, and be gentle. As you relax further, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When youre comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and gentle, taking care to relax your sphincter during the process. Once youve come in contact with the male G-spot, youll recognize it as a small, chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inward.
Stimulating your G-spot
The first step in stimulating the male G-spot is making oneself comfortable. Bathing beforehand can put a man more at ease with the process, so we recommend starting out with a nice hot shower. If youd like to take that one step further, enemas are not at all uncommon and you may choose to add this to your regimen. Once youre ready for stimulation, there are a number of methods you can utilize, though we recommend keeping it simple if youre a novice; a finger will be sufficient for beginners. Regardless, youll want a good supply of lubrication on hand, and youll want the type specifically created for anal play.
It will take some experimentation to discover what works best for you in terms of stimulation. Return to one of the positions we mentioned earlier (lying on your back with your legs and backside elevated) and repeat the steps you used to located the prostate. As you prepare to stimulate your G-spot, keep in mind that techniques vary greatly. Some men enjoy gentle thrusting movements, and some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself. You might prefer a mix of the two or something entirely different. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond; take your time, the orgasm is worth it. Its also important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first exploration, and thats perfectly normal; you can always try again in the future.
Don't be ashamed of stimulating the male G-spot; the results can be explosive!
techniques and toys
Finger
Weve already mentioned this one, but you shouldnt limit this method to solo exploration. Believe it or not, many women enjoy performing this type of stimulation in the bedroom, particularly when the resulting orgasms can be so powerful. If youd like to try something highly erotic, have her give you a blow job while stimulating your prostate.
G-spot goodie: Brace your hands against the back of a sofa and bend over at a 90-degree angle. Spread your legs apart and have your woman get on her knees in front of you. This will allow her to perform oral sex while still being able to stimulate your prostate.
Rim job
There was a time when most women had no idea what a rim job was -- those days are long past, and most are quite savvy with the technique these days. If youd like to add a little extra ecstasy to your next sex session, bring up the subject of reciprocal rim jobs. Its quite simple, really: When youre both fresh out of the bath, use your tongue to gently probe each others anuses. The sensation is truly incredible and youre both sure to enjoy it.
G-spot goodie: Magnify your orgasms by manually stimulating each other during the rim job; toying with her clitoris should lead to a powerful climax for her, and a well-timed hand job will guarantee your own.
Butt plug
If youd like to combine sex and prostate stimulation, butt plugs are one of the simplest options available on the market. They can be used during blow jobs or actual intercourse. Butt plugs come in a variety of shapes and sizes, so you neednt worry about the experience being painful or uncomfortable; simply choose the size that meets your requirements.
G-spot goodie: If youd like to experience something truly incredible, work your PC muscles while penetrating your woman. This will stimulate the male G-spot further than you could possibly imagine.
it's not just for women
While we dont expect everyone to be immediately comfortable with this type of exploration, we do want to make it clear that its perfectly acceptable and in no way strange or perverse. The male G-spot is a powerful gland that can lead to earth-shattering orgasms, and we believe everyones entitled to that kind of pleasure. If youre not ready for this type of play, thats perfectly understandable and we certainly dont want you to do anything that doesnt feel right for you. If, however, youre open-minded about male G-spot stimulation, we encourage you to try our tips and start working your way toward the ultimate orgasm.
Read on as we give you the lowdown on the male G-spot and what it can do for your sex life.
Discovering your G-spot
The male G-spot isnt all that difficult to find, but it does require a little patience. Lying on your back is generally considered to be the most comfortable position for this, so youll probably want to make use of the bed or perhaps a large sofa. The process will be easiest with your legs elevated, which you can do by simply leaning your legs against the wall behind the bed or draping them over the back of the sofa. If youre still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under your bum.
Once youve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Most men enjoy having their taint (also known as the perineum) stimulated, and that can certainly be incorporated into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring, and be gentle. As you relax further, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When youre comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and gentle, taking care to relax your sphincter during the process. Once youve come in contact with the male G-spot, youll recognize it as a small, chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inward.
Stimulating your G-spot
The first step in stimulating the male G-spot is making oneself comfortable. Bathing beforehand can put a man more at ease with the process, so we recommend starting out with a nice hot shower. If youd like to take that one step further, enemas are not at all uncommon and you may choose to add this to your regimen. Once youre ready for stimulation, there are a number of methods you can utilize, though we recommend keeping it simple if youre a novice; a finger will be sufficient for beginners. Regardless, youll want a good supply of lubrication on hand, and youll want the type specifically created for anal play.
It will take some experimentation to discover what works best for you in terms of stimulation. Return to one of the positions we mentioned earlier (lying on your back with your legs and backside elevated) and repeat the steps you used to located the prostate. As you prepare to stimulate your G-spot, keep in mind that techniques vary greatly. Some men enjoy gentle thrusting movements, and some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself. You might prefer a mix of the two or something entirely different. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond; take your time, the orgasm is worth it. Its also important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first exploration, and thats perfectly normal; you can always try again in the future.
Don't be ashamed of stimulating the male G-spot; the results can be explosive!
techniques and toys
Finger
Weve already mentioned this one, but you shouldnt limit this method to solo exploration. Believe it or not, many women enjoy performing this type of stimulation in the bedroom, particularly when the resulting orgasms can be so powerful. If youd like to try something highly erotic, have her give you a blow job while stimulating your prostate.
G-spot goodie: Brace your hands against the back of a sofa and bend over at a 90-degree angle. Spread your legs apart and have your woman get on her knees in front of you. This will allow her to perform oral sex while still being able to stimulate your prostate.
Rim job
There was a time when most women had no idea what a rim job was -- those days are long past, and most are quite savvy with the technique these days. If youd like to add a little extra ecstasy to your next sex session, bring up the subject of reciprocal rim jobs. Its quite simple, really: When youre both fresh out of the bath, use your tongue to gently probe each others anuses. The sensation is truly incredible and youre both sure to enjoy it.
G-spot goodie: Magnify your orgasms by manually stimulating each other during the rim job; toying with her clitoris should lead to a powerful climax for her, and a well-timed hand job will guarantee your own.
Butt plug
If youd like to combine sex and prostate stimulation, butt plugs are one of the simplest options available on the market. They can be used during blow jobs or actual intercourse. Butt plugs come in a variety of shapes and sizes, so you neednt worry about the experience being painful or uncomfortable; simply choose the size that meets your requirements.
G-spot goodie: If youd like to experience something truly incredible, work your PC muscles while penetrating your woman. This will stimulate the male G-spot further than you could possibly imagine.
it's not just for women
While we dont expect everyone to be immediately comfortable with this type of exploration, we do want to make it clear that its perfectly acceptable and in no way strange or perverse. The male G-spot is a powerful gland that can lead to earth-shattering orgasms, and we believe everyones entitled to that kind of pleasure. If youre not ready for this type of play, thats perfectly understandable and we certainly dont want you to do anything that doesnt feel right for you. If, however, youre open-minded about male G-spot stimulation, we encourage you to try our tips and start working your way toward the ultimate orgasm.
And in this mode I must say this post leaves me feeling a bit ambiguous you see a while back in the process fo giving my wife head, my tongue would wander over here anus, this occasional anal stimulation would really turns her on. This from a woman who has no interest in being penatrated anally.
So one day I was in her and we were doing it and she starts fingering my ass, i guess she was just returning the favor. I felt really wierd about this, really wierd indeed you see it was definately turning me on and yet at the same time I felt that she shouldn't be doing this.
I guess my thought is that while I have no interest in being anally penatrated, I may have to accept that I lake having my ass fingured by my wife.
It feels great and I feel sorry for the guys who would not try it. Does not make you gay, does not mean you will start liking men lol.
I am not gay, have no desire for men, or even thoughts of it.
But when she did it I knew that this was fun. Not something I did everytime, but once in awhile it was great.
Jade....you hottie....i think we'd all like to hear your little sexual treats you do for your man....thats why we are all here...to SHARE, give support and find new ways to make our sexual life better and more healthy. So fess up sweety! lol
I am a cross dresser but clothes is not really what it is about it is about a desire to be sometimes able to express myself as feminine even though from a sexual view point I am only interested in women.
I am happy being a man and if I dress up in womens clothes I am well aware that it is a sham, I guess what I wanted to find a way to be accepted as a woman if only in a virtual environment.
I have confessed who I am and made a full disclosure on a group where I am an admin and my close friends who I have met since I joined DS have all embraced and accepted the reality of who I am.
My close friends that I have met since I have been on DS see me as coming from a female perspective and will continue to see me that way, I guess that is enough for me.
I hope this explains it.
We have straights, gays, bi, intersex, ... pretty much the whole enchilada here. Other than the occasional troll who drags its knuckles through, we all get along and have considerable respect for each other.
So you go right ahead and do your thing, as far as I'm concerned. Express yourself as a woman or a man. Either way is good. It's the expression that counts, not the gender.
Rock on!
Sexycowboy: Art4life, why don't we do this....I will watch and learn what you do to Hilly. meanwhile I could slip up behind you and do the same to you! You do her, I do you? Then maybe the both of you could trade positions and I will follow.