Healthy Sex Support Group
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Ugh......my gf and I make love a lot. I have been having a hard time achieving an orgasm from having sex though. I just go and go and go and go and she will eventually get tired or slightly dry and she will finish me off with a handjob.
I have gotten back to the point where, with some coaxing, I can get it up when I want and everything is working great there. My GF turns me on big time and she is pretty good in bed (we are still learning each other though as it is a newer relationship). She prefers for me to be on top, which I don't mind, but she will also get on top for a while (until her legs get sore).
In the past doggie style seems to be the position that makes me climax the fastest. It is a little tough to do because she is almost as tall as I am. She is getting better at getting into position but her legs get sore after a while of that too.
Either way, I still have too much stamina. I am glad that I don't have a hair trigger but I have only been able to achieve orgasm one time out of over 16 times of making love.
Is there any way to make me more sensitive down there or something? I am not sure it that is all of the equation though either. I thought that it was the condoms but I am not so sure about that now. I use to think that it was also the stress of being in her parents house with them being home but that isn't it either as we have been out of that situation some.
Any tips or suggestions are welcome.
I have gotten back to the point where, with some coaxing, I can get it up when I want and everything is working great there. My GF turns me on big time and she is pretty good in bed (we are still learning each other though as it is a newer relationship). She prefers for me to be on top, which I don't mind, but she will also get on top for a while (until her legs get sore).
In the past doggie style seems to be the position that makes me climax the fastest. It is a little tough to do because she is almost as tall as I am. She is getting better at getting into position but her legs get sore after a while of that too.
Either way, I still have too much stamina. I am glad that I don't have a hair trigger but I have only been able to achieve orgasm one time out of over 16 times of making love.
Is there any way to make me more sensitive down there or something? I am not sure it that is all of the equation though either. I thought that it was the condoms but I am not so sure about that now. I use to think that it was also the stress of being in her parents house with them being home but that isn't it either as we have been out of that situation some.
Any tips or suggestions are welcome.
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I also think that adding more foreplay directed towards me would help but I don't know how to broach that topic with her. Foreplay from her consists of her using her hand and/or going down on me to get me hard. By that time I have stimulated her quite a bit with my finger and she is ready for the action. We do kiss a lot and she is very passionate but I am wondering if it would help for her to tease me some before letting me penetrate her.
When I was younger this never use to be a problem. I had a lot of control over when I came, but I could cum really quickly if I wanted to (like quickies). I don't think that a quickie would be possible these days.
At one point I worried that my blood pressure and colestrol meds might be hurting things but I don't think so since I am getting it up quite a bit.
All in all, I just need to relax I guess. This weekend should be interesting because we are gong to a nice hotel room that has a hot tub in the room. I am going to put on some nice music, put some candles around the hot tub, dim the lights, and maybe share a glass of wine with her. That may helps set the scene.
I can honestly say that I love her very much. I know that sex improves over time between a couple too so I am thinking that this may just be a temporary mental problem. The other thing that may help is when her BC pills take effect and we no longer use condoms.