I try to get her involved. Most times she’s not up for sex but giving her a massage naked can satisfy some needs. Not all but having some intimacy is nice. Keeps the distance from forming which I have found is really important. I’m interested to see what other advice you get as I am sure you aren’t alone in this. Women in the same position may have some words of wisdom too.

Im a woman with a high sex drive & partner does not BUT when we play sex games, I normally get what I want!. Also try oral sex on her & showering together could get her in the mood. Have patience, dont display anger, ( as women, we dont like being pressured into sex). Romance also kick starts emotions in us to be want you more!

I don't get angry but it is frustrating that my drive is so much higher and I fly solo so often.

I feel you 100% my friend.
I am in the same position.
Let me tell you that probably her situation never will change. I am married for 20 years.
Has not changed.
The only choice you have is to accept the fact that your wife is what it is with her low sex drive and you have to enjoy sex with her when she wants and how she wants.
At least that’s my experience in my marriage.
I masturbate at least 1-2 times daily in order to relax my self.
Unfortunately is not a magical filter for guys like us unless you cheat on your wife.

Not an usual situation. If you really care about her and don't want to start building resentment or pulling away, my advice is to love on her in other ways - women have a myriad of ways to get turned on - sometimes being extra thoughtful - doing things before she asks, genuine kind words or compliments, avoiding harsh comments, going the extra mile on something meaningful to her. Not overtly romantic necessarily, but sometimes these acts of kindness, if you will, can sometimes start to stoke romantic feelings. When a woman feels important to you - not ignored or taken for granted, you may find her becoming more affectionate.

Tell her she is beautiful 3 times every day

Tell her you love her 5 times every day

I tell mine 30 times a day love you and doesn’t work.
Lol

I do. I'm not angry, just a bit frustrated. Her drive isn't the same as mine and I've accepted that. We are happy otherwise, Im just on my own several days a week.

Try to make your surrounding passionate. Move out with your wife to some new place like hotel, trip to new location as it also helps to increase excitement. Biologically it results better sex desire if you change your location. There are many reasons when women show less desire for intimacy due to home stress, work, daily routines, child care, look after home, etc. Women need to be relaxed and mind free to accept his partner romantic approach.
I understand this changing location all the time is not that easy every time , so i would suggest you can make your own bedroom like new by some spot lights, candles with flower, night lamps, with sweet music, with some fine and food cooked by you ( women specially like when men cooks for them before going on bed)

Here's a really good suggestion from Dr. Pat Love: When a partner with low sexual desire tells his or her spouse about the conditions that need to be in place in order to engage in or enjoy sex, the higher-sexed spouse often does not understand or accept the requests at face value. For example, if a wife tells her husband that she prefers making love at night rather than in the morning, the husband might think she is just making up excuses. (For most men, testosterone peaks between 7 to 8 A.M.; women's testosterone levels peak in the evening.) If a husband tells his wife that he feels more turned on after they take a shower or when the kids are asleep, she may think he is just putting things off so that sex never happens. But the truth is these may not just be excuses. You may have a hard time believing this because you are ready to go at the drop of a hat, but your spouse may really need things to be a certain way in order to feel relaxed, comfortable, and turned on. As much as possible, try to honor these requests and not discredit your partner when he or she confides in you about them. Take them at face value, and try to create the kind of atmosphere that is most likely to be conducive to your partner desiring sex.