No flerting is good. Are you trying to meet someone?

Depends what it is you are saying to a guy? The context? The inflection?

I am glad you asked the question, and though I can't answer it, it made me remember I've wanted to ask a related question.
I get the feeling , from many men I know, that when women are talking to them in friendly way, that some of the time the woman is just being friendly (for example a cashier , waiting on the customers) , and the men assume it is flirting.
Reason I ask (we all know I am in a friends with benefits relationship) and my guy tells me many things about local women. He seems to see them all as flirting (he flirts a lot and says very brazen topics to them in his charming way) But I wonder if he misreads it. one women who was a cashier in a local liquor store for example, who lives near me and she talks to me the same way, she is extremely nice friendly woman. But it's not just her , he told me the owner of liquor store hired women to flirt with customers to have a brisk business. I really do think my guy friend just sees men and women that way. I mean, I don't really care one way or the other, but my late husband, brothers in law, son, every guy I know well seems to think women are constantly flirting and I am not so sure.
kind of like how women dress, also. Women often dress to impress other women(or keep up with them fashion wise) but men seem to assume they are trolling for men.

Well, yes, I am trying to establish a friendship or more in a relationship. I don't want to die alone!
I thought the guys I knew where I lived before were duds but I think I could take a bat and hit some of these in the forehead(not really) and they still would not understand. Are guys not seeing an open heart or do they think I just want their money??

I don't understand your question. In your initial post, it appears that you feel that some people misconstrue your friendly nature as flirting. But in your reply #4, you seem to bemoan the fact that your attempts at flirting to establish friendship are falling on deaf ears.

your not doing anything wrong we are simply energy some good some bad an it doesn't mean anything unless ur intention is to seduce,, just have fun don't intentionally make anyone uncomfortable an have open adult dialog,, its all depending on the intent an whether a curious feeling arise ,, just talk about it,,

The tricky part is that men are much worse at reading body language
and flirting than women. You could be flirting and he might not notice
or not flirting and he thinks you are . We're kinda dumb that way.

I had a girlfriend years ago who I met at work. She told me later [after we were dating ] that when
I walked by she would try stick her butt out or pose in some subtle sexy way so I would notice her. Said she thought she was going to have to hit me with a brick to get my attention. Fortunately I asked her
out before i got a dent in my head.

If you're not sure if your flirting , there's little chance he will figure it out.

My answer later down the line was to the first 2 replies. I would like more but I am not trying to cross the line of a fun friendship.