I looked at your other posts. With a 3yo and a 1yo, no wonder you are "overly exhausted". And you are TTC another child??

I don't know your situation at all, but if you and hubby do get it on and concieve #3, yiu better get used to the exhaustion now - it's gonna be par for the course for a while yet.

PS. If you are exhausted now, how are you going to feel when you are growing a baby??

I’m so glad to hear from the other side of this equation. Usually it’s those of us on the other side looking for answers as to why our partners have bailed out of a sexual relationship. The fact that you’re here is a wonderful thing! I don’t know the full scope of how often this is coming up for you so I don’t know if the situation is at green yellow or red alert. If you guys are still having sex but just not as often as one would like, you can still find a happy medium to set as a norm. I think the first thing to look at is your energy level. Life can be demanding and draining but if you are OVERLY tired without an explanation you might want to talk to your primary care doctor to make sure everything is in order. Outside of any medical issues, you can research ways to increase energy. For me it was exercise and cutting back (oddly enough) on caffeine that helped out. Until then, fake it till you make it. LOL! I’m not sure how long you have been married but back in 1902 when my husband and I were still having sex, I learned that there were different ways of getting the job done so to speak. If we didn’t have much time b4 a screaming child or barking dog would interrupt us, I knew our approach had to be the fast track. I quickly learn how to get the end result the quickest so to speak. For us, positioning was key. I hope something here helps. Good luck to you!

LOL I have been exactly in the same position with my wife. I thought I was the only one wanting sex late at night.
But when you say night what do you mean exactly? 7-8pm 10-11pm or 2-3am ?
I am asking cause I use to wake up late at night and wanting sex like crazy.
My wife was frustrated with that. She was telling me that I was rapping her which made me feel really bed.
But when the day is busy night time is the only option to have sex .
I really don’t like the word aroused you used.
Then another thing is how often this happened?
Cause if you have sex once a week or twice and you feel exhausted than this is a problem. You are his wife and he wants sex . Is normal. Like what he can do?
I agree that we like men should understand our wives but for how long and how many times? Forever and everything? This gonna be a problem in the future or even now.
As men I understand we need more sex than women maybe but always is solution if you want to. The thing is not to much or nothing or we gonna have sex when I want.
You might want once a month. Ehhhhh then will be a problem.
Talk with hubby and find a common solution for both.

Finechina I hope your husband is understanding. I went through the same thing with my ex.

I read your other post. That kind of anxiety is nothing to balk at... you need to find some kind help--whether mainstream therapy or alternate therapy or a journey of self-discovery.

It's also NOT a reason to beat yourself up. Your anxiety can get better, and when it does (if everything else in the relationship is good) your sex life can get better too. But you have to take care of YOU first. Feeling guilty is natural, but it will only add to your anxiety. In the mean time, you can try to do little things for him (all kinds of affection are good... even snuggles and non-sexual favors like gifts.) And BOTH of you have to make sure not to add to your guilt.

Imagine if you were in a cast with a broken leg and feeling guilty for not having sex! That is the physical equivalent of what you are going through.

Find some help, therapy, something that calls to you. Or just start by admitting that you are unhappy, that your anxiety is REAL, and that something has to change.

Sending you love and light! Feel free to friend or PM me if you want to talk more!

The source to my exhaustion sprouts from me just starting to work again and we have a lot of late nights and early mornings and my jobs is very physical I’m doing a lot of moving and stocking stuff and unloading it was a lot to jump into all of a sudden and being a full time mom to 2 toddlers. It was all very exhausting and still is, you know us women there’s never really time for a break. Honestly when it’s time for bed IT IS TIME FOR BED for me I’m OUT like a light. And that often puts sex to the back of my mind when all I’m trying to do is get some sleep which I feel I barely get with my schedule.

Try really hard (both of you) not to combine guilt with sex. That’s a direction right of a cliff. Maybe ask him to just hold you as you fall asleep. That’s an act of intimacy that can keep the love alive.