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weather 01/12/2014

i have been married now for 6 years. Have talked to my wife many..many..times about things i like. I told her i would dress up as donald duck if it turned her on! im 55..she is 61..not overweight at all. im 250 good shape. I told her i am going to buy a masturbation machine because im tired of doing it myself! she never wears anything sexy..when she sits around in the baggy sweats and shirt..turns me off. I recently went on a trip & exp. a session with a gal who put me in diapers..rubber pants..spanked me..tied me down..then masturbated me..it was awesome. Im done trying to express my feelings to my wife on these matters. I dont want a girlfriend..just somebody to see now & then to role play these desires. i have other male friends who feel the same. My close friend..feels exactly like me. Once i have a session with somebody..i seem to feel so much better for months..like i don't have this uneasy feeling..i feel calm & relaxed...Please don't judge me on here..i would never say anything that would hurt somebody else..

deleted_user 01/12/2014

Sound to me like you are a Submissive who wants to do age play. That is not uncommon. As a matter of fact, I am just getting out of a relationship with somebody like that.

Did you see a pro Domme?

weather 01/12/2014

i have in the past..but i don't have the money that they want for a session. I would be willing to help with some things..but the stisfaction of seeing somebody turned on from role playing there fantasy..or receiving one..is priceless..emotionally. It was a big step just for me to post this.

des10ed2b 01/12/2014

yeah, i wont touch posts where someone is cheating. you want to explore, get divorced. that is my opinion.

deleted_user 01/12/2014

Des is right. The guy I ended it with is a MM as well. It was wrong. I ended it. That's all!

weather 01/13/2014

well..im not perfect. My wife has made mistakes..but im still with her. Im not saying my behavior is correct...by who's standards? It was a big step for me to post this..now i know why i don't mention things in my life..tired of being judged..thankyou for the comments.

MsViv 01/13/2014

Does your wife know you are going elsewhere? If not, then that isn't fair to her. I'm not judging, just asking a question.
And the other thing I have a question about is - you say her sitting around in baggy sweats turns you off. Does the way you dress or do things turn her off too? What turns her on? You never mentioned that.

weather 01/13/2014

no..she doesn't know..so i have decided to not do it anymore. I have told her how sexy she looks when she puts other things on..but she never does. Says she has no interest anymore in sex. When i have to go out to a meeting, i always try to dress nice..she always compliments me. She goes bto the barn and does dressage..so she's either in barn clothes, work clothes..or baggy couch clothes. I've told her many times how hot she would look i sexy clothes..but she just listens..says nothing. At this point..i think i will just keep masturbating over scenerios..realize this is the way it is. My fantasy role play sessions are over. Thankyou miss viv for the kind questions..

koolman 01/14/2014

Since you liked those fantasy role-play sessions, don't say they're over--just divorce your wife first, then go get 'em!

stillbitterjaded 01/15/2014

You cannot put a request in a public forum and request only positive feedback.

Your desires are very normal, why do you not split with your partner and explore them? If you aren't compatible, it's okay to not be with someone.

If "everything else" in the marriage is perfect, either accept your sex life as it is, or be single and have the sex you want.

You don't get both.

weather 01/15/2014

I agree.

deleted_user 01/17/2014

Maybe I'm in the minority here, but how about some counseling? Clearly your wife is dismissing your needs, which sound pretty reasonable to me. Tell her it's an issue for you, tell her you love her and that you need her to take you seriously. She either will because she loves you, or you have a real reason to doubt the partnership. I don't agree with cheating---that's not a solution---but take some real initiative and find a third party to help you work through it. She has either forgotten the pleasure of sex and will be reminded if she give it a go, or she has a psychological problem that could be helped. Good luck.

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