No difference.

My my lady, everywhere I go there you are!! ;-)

There is no difference.

Most love affairs, in my experience,
( I am now 50 years old and a grandma)
begin with the emotional affair, then lead to the physical.

I remember the beginning of the relationship that I am now having to end 20 yrs later. ( it has been hell)

It was emotional, we were just friends, for almost 2 yrs we were just friends, & I went home to my husband. Then one day he looked at me different and told me so. Because I was in crisis with my husband for 3 yrs at that point and was lonely for that, "connection" we all want with our significant others, I fell right into his arms.

I had a best friend who tried to warn me at the time, she knew more than I and had a maturity I didn't have back then, and I wish I could have heard her then because she was right, completely correct. I still became enmeshed with the one I was loving. My friend told me, "You are not falling in love, you are just, Loving." I didn't understand that the man I was" falling for" was all made up in my heart and my head. I am truly paying the price today after 20 yrs of trying to make this 'thing' work..............
All that I felt..... I believed with all of me....... he felt too.................. 'The same way' ................ he may have loved me in his own way, but it has not been the same way I have been ' loving' him............

We all must walk the path set for us to learn what we are to learn in this life, but.............. if we can listen.. especially when our hearts are in the thick of the, 'connection'.......... listen to those who question us, or warn us, or just want us to be sure............

I don't know how not to follow my heart, I have always been this way, I trust my heart over my head every time..................... but there's got to be a way to not hurt others in an immature way, through lies and deceit and at least..... at the very least............... be honest and open with the people we are in relationship with when this happens......... Then, even if we must follow our hearts, we are not leaving a trail of bloody, broken hearts behind us.

We may not be able to save someone from being hurt, but we can be honest, and at least leave them with some dignity, they deserve no less than this much respect from us.

I love you sister 'Lady'
'Stubborn' TerrieAnn

Both are a betrayal of trust and a selfish act.

Some people will be able to forgive easier and move on with one type over another. However, the are both very damaging to a relationship.

That having been said, I don't necessarily agree with ralop that they are the same. It is possible to be stricly physical with someone and have no emotional attachment. Just ask Hugh Grant about his "affair" with Divine Brown. I seriously doubt there was any emotional connection there but there was definitely something physical and it ruined his relationship with Elizabeth Hurley.

Affair of any kind?
VERY BAD

Please don't do it
It is the most hurtful, biggest betrayal you could impose on another person.

Well spoken LAC I totally agree!! No one wants a liar, cheat and player!!! Have respect for the other party involved!!

Please understand! Im not asking about it for ME! I wouldnt do either of those things! I was asking because its been DONE to ME>
So please dont say "dont do it" etc etc...( that is IF pertaining to me- Im not trying to be touchy here but when it comes to this I am ) because I know all about feeling betrayed and broken hearted and completely shocked -slammed out of nowhere by someone I trusted more than ANYONE... and this was an emotional affair. Im pretty sure it hurts the same but I dont know- I guess there is NO way of really telling
I just cant imagine doing this to a person. It hurt me so much - more than he will ever know.

Hey ralop! Yeah, here we are :) I noticed your post and thought... Oh hey- I know this one!
Nice to see you ...:)

((((Llady))))
They both suck. I have never been so hurt in my life as I was when my stbx started to have an emotional affair with my best friend. It turned physical and they are together now. If I had never been through that hurt, I wouldn't be who I am today though. In my case alot of good came of it. I am a much happier person becasue I am no longer feeling not good enough.

Lady you can't blame us for how we replied to you when you weren't clear at all in your question when you posted it. How were we suppose to know what you meant exactly?? We didn't reply to hurt you we were just being honest. Please next time so we don't hurt you explain a bit more since this is a touchy subject for you. I would never post anything to hurt or upset anyone.

They both really suck and hurt the other party just as badly.I know been down that road a few times in my younger years.Its still just plain out cheating and if that has been donne to you then i splitsville should be in your near future because lord only knows what he or she has been with.

No see... I think I have trouble trying to get my point across.I really just was trying to get a point across about it happening to me and how I felt about it. I was trying to explain it- but it just didnt come across right when I wrote it . I was hoping people wouldnt think it was ME doin the cheatin' LOL thats what I meant and that was all- I wasnt trying to blame anybody... I really wasnt... Im sorry it came across wrong- thats my fault.

And Merc ... I know for sure that you wouldnt want to hurt or upset anybody ... I have read enough of your posts to know that! You are welcoming and very sweet to everybody! Im sorry I came off wrong - I didnt mean to.