Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Ok Ive posted several times here and some know my story, Have had a great relationship that turned completely wrong. While our love life was always good, after being on HS for a while I know it could have mag-fuggin-ificent. So how does a person get their s/o to try things new and provacative. For instance the stbx never ever considered shaving her va-j-j hows a guy convince a lady to try that. Or if your s/o is prudish how in the heck do you get them to entertain the thought of bringing toys to bed LOL. I know someone has been successful in transforming Mr. or Mrs. or Miss into a more passionate funloving no holds barred sexaholic. So whats the secret to suckcess?
In terms of other stuff, be the leader and take control! Some girls are just super-shy about certain things, and they really appreciate a guy that will take the lead (myself included). I was probably the world's biggest prude, and now look at me lol. It took a guy that was willing to take the time to show me the ropes, and to let me discover my sexual side in an environment where I felt safe and totally comfy with him.
Get your woman a gift certificate to a sex toy shop, but make it a couples thing....tell her you thought you guys could go shopping to find something fun for both of you to use together. However, if she is totally averse to it (because there are some things some girls just won't do), don't push the issue. Move onto something new. Maybe start slow, trying new positions. Then introduce something else, like food or light role playing. Take it slow and make sure she is always comfortable, and you will be surprised how fast she comes around!
You may start with something simple and small that you purchase for her. There may be alot of things that she will get into once given the opportunity to experience it.
Ya know there are times of the month to avoid - don't introduce ANY new ideas then. Moodiness will kill it dead in its tracks. But when I feel my lowest, he compliments me. it works..
I myself shave but only once in a while because it's annoying and then again I don't really have anyone I am involved with right now. But I definitely know that when I do find someone to get involved with if they want me to shave and I don't feel like it I would hope they would be open to doing it for me.
It's all about being comfortable with the person you are intimate with. Make it a welcoming environment and make her feel safe. I find when I am most comfortable I am willing to try new things.