Yeah, when I got divorced, I didn't know when I would ever fall in love or even find fwb.
Tough times, I think I went months without, ugh.
so thankful for a girlfriend !
I wish you the best

I've also just gone through a separation and a divorce (which is final next week!! Woot! Woot!) so I do understand the loneliness.
But please don't lower your standards. Because what you're doing is possibility setting up someone to be hurt when you find someone more to your liking. If you only want casual sex, then be honest.
At least then all the cards are on the table. No surprises.

Debra

Why would you ever lower your standards?

people do crazy things when they begin to feel lonely. i've lowered my standards (and even that hasn't helped). the way i figure it, you can lower your standards, and be unhappy with someone else (which causes a shitload of problems) or you can keep your standards where you had them and be unhappy by yourself, until you find someone that meets those standards

I would rather keep my standards and stay true to who I am as a person then change who I am in order for someone to like me.
Eventually the real person will come out and a person cannot pretend to be someone or something they are not. Time tells all. I say be who you are and hold your head up high and be proud of who you are.
Whatever you do I hope you are happy! :)

When you say "lower your standards" do you mean just take whatever you can get out of being desperate? Explain what you mean exactly when you say "lower your standards" if you can. Thanks! :)

Do you mean just take anyone?

I mean go out with someone you normally wouldn't just to have a good time, but you're upfront about what you want.

I prefer not to think of it as "lowering my standards" but broadening my horizons and being open to new experiences. Yeah, I've done that. We have to if we want to evolve!

Oh yes I have lowered my standards many times espescially late at night just before last call......Ron

I agree with Koolman on this ! It is brodening my horizons!

Never judge a book by its cover!

Some of the best lovers I have ever had were not the first choices in physical appearance! I am not saying that to be mean,but any kind of relationship is a trade off of what you want. Even a purely sexual relationship is a trade of this service for that one.

Good point

Lowering your standards about age, physical appearance, etc. may open you up to meeting people you would have rejected before--and you could be pleasantly surprised!

As far as having sex just to get laid, I know men do this all the time (and many women too). But I would advise against going to bed with someone you really don't even like or respect. The whole point of having sex is to feel good, and if you despise the person (and yourself) as soon as the orgasm is past, can hardly wait to get rid of the person--well that leads to feeling REALLY BAD.

Had a friend in Philly who once commented, "In porn from the 1970's people actually pretended to LIKE each other before they had sex!" Well as someone who was sexually active during the 70's, I can testify that usually we DID like each other! It was fun and healthy. Very few bum trips.

Living water, I agree with you the 70's porn always had a plot or story where the couple appeared to care for each other, the sex had some foreplay.........It certainly was not like the slam bam thank you mam of today...LOL

LivingWater, I completely agree with your 1st paragraph.
It happened to me. After 2002, I focused less on a woman's physical attributes and focused on the woman's personality (were they a calming influence or were they usually wanting to 'start something'?, were they usually happy or miserable or complaining, were they optimistic or cynical) Doing that made for a better foundation going into relationship and I found the one I love now back in 2010.

I have heard it said that the "10's" tend to be a dead f**k and the average girl next door can rock it like a porn star. Don't judge a book by its cover.

Walt Disney didn't do any of us any favours. Pretty does not always equal nice. Men or women.

Just sayin'