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Does size really matter?

brent72
brent72
I have heard this question alot (not here on DS) but never really heard anyone reply. I am 54 and gaining weight and the more I gain the smaller it gets. lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not the size of the wand, it's the magic it produces.
vickycarter
vickycarter
exactly what i say its not the size that matters its how you use it.
papertrucker
papertrucker
depends on what the wand is going into?
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
It isn't the size of the ship... it is the motion of the ocean. lol
brent72
brent72
OK OK but what do you mean "how you use it" and "the magic it produces". Does that mean my little guy should be able to do tricks?
kidsintowe03
kidsintowe03
I'll be honest and say for me YES it does matter....I have had several lovers in my life and if I can't feel it in me and he is just acting as if he's in heaven....NOPE can't do it.....I'm not one to fake it to spare someones feelings or ego ... I'm not saying that they have to be oh so well endowed or anything, but damn...
deleted_user
deleted_user
no, i don't think size is terribly important.

I've actually been with a guy that was really huge before, and for one thing, he had no clue what he was doing with it, and it was very painful.
brent72
brent72
kidsintow03 Thanks for being honest. Just hope my wife doesn't feel that way. lol It's been over 2 years so I guess it really does't make does it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Brent, it should be able to do tricks and sail across the sea! Yep, then you don't have nothing to worry about.
kidsintowe03
kidsintowe03
brent, you are welcome...it got so bad with that one I didn't even want him on me........and that is SO not me.....LOL
brent72
brent72
He used to be able to dance a jig when I was younger ! Now he has trouble doing a slow dance.
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
Brent, I would suggest if you are having trouble in that department ...show her that you want to please her in other ways with toys, mouth, fingers etc.

My Ex-Fiancee got cancer. He had no desire to please me in anyway and that was very painful. You can still pleasure her and receive pleasure if you have the desire.
Good Luck!!
Tray34
Tray34
I've always said its not what you got but how you use it..
deleted_user
deleted_user
Does size matter ? For me to a certain degree Yes, I use to always say I dont want to play hide and seek the penis and look at it and say what is this? Where are you ? lol I cant find you.. j/k But all in all its how you work what you have into pleasure. I hate when guys brag about what they have or how supposely big it is? lol brag about how you suck in bed. Your size has nothing to do with it . Your skills do.
I agree with LisaACOA comments !
Dont put yourself down, there's always away.
brent72
brent72
I would do almost anything she would want. Trouble is she just does seem to want or need it. She is an very good wife in other respects and is under alot of pressure with being the main bread winner and all. I don't want to give her anymore stress by pushing having sex if she is not interested anymore.