Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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brent72 07/16/2008

I read your posts and wonder if you all have any idea of how lucky you are. You seem to be able to discuss anything with your mates. You have great sex and communication with them. I wish I could just have a little of that.I am 54 male. I have several health issues one of which is ED. However my sex drive is as strong as ever. My wife of 18 years doesn't seem to want sex anymore and never really did in the first place. Only ever averaged about once or twice a month. Nothing but straight sex in one position. I can't talk to her about this because she is under so much stress now because she is the only one bring in any money and she takes such good care of Duke and I. I couldn't bare causing her anymore stress. I just try and not think about it but it is hard not to. I do have "the plan". But I have to wait until my heart or kidneys or something goes so I can refuse the surgery or treatment. Then she will get the life insurance and not have me as a burden anymore.

JUST REALIZE HOW LUCKY AND BLESSED YOU ARE PLEASE.

Tray34 07/16/2008

Oh please dont talk like that.You are not a burden..And even though i have a wonderful husband and I truly enjoy sex,life is not that easy.Just go and read my journal and see the communication issues I have..You really need to find a way to communicate with her.If not directly then some other way..Hang in there..

brent72 07/16/2008

Thanks for the reply, but I have come to terms with being a burden and how I am going to resolve that. I just really hope everyone here realizes just how lucky they are.

Tray34 07/16/2008

That breaks my heart..

kidsintowe03 07/16/2008

first of all I am sorry you feel as though you are such a burden to your wife..I thought that was what marriage was about.....what do I know?

and secondly, the married ones in this group represent only a percentage of those of us on here. I for one, you could say, am a representative of the single and wish they could have it more often group...while we know we have our faults and down falls...is it so hard to ask for just one to love me?? Apparantly so!

deleted_user 07/16/2008

brent, something in your post really worries me. Have you considered counseling? I think that you and your wife may need to consider marraige or family counseling. Everyone has relationship issues. As Tray said, if you want to read some drama...check out my journal. But, no one should live in misery either. I think that if you can't communicate with your wife, maybe it is time for you guys to get someone else to help you work thru your issues! ((hugs))

brent72 07/16/2008

Counsleing is not in the budget. I am on SSD and we just make it from payday to payday. Plus I don't want to give my wife any more stress than she already has. I have come to terms with things. I know what I need to do. I just posted this to let some off the people posting here to think about just how lucky they are.

Tray34 07/16/2008

But Brent you have to think of yourself too.And I dont mean sexually but mentally..If you cant afford counseling talk to a minister or preacher or someone that you both trust.Your feelings are very important too..

deleted_user 07/16/2008

yes. Tray is absolutley right!

The other thing you may or may not realize is...all of us have very real life issues. The Healthy Sex group is our fun place. Our place to be silly and open, and laugh...I know for me, the other support groups, while the are very helpful and supportive, can get very depressing at times.

Healthy Sex is my release. (ok...that came out all weird, but funny. lol)
This is my place to be free of stress and anxiety. Hopefully you can embrace that, and join in on some of our lighthearted conversations. I think you may find that it helps take your mind off of the downtrodden things in life.

Tray34 07/16/2008

Also this is a place where I can be open about sex unlike at home.My husband is not very open when it comes to talking about sex and things like that..So here I fit in..

deleted_user 07/16/2008

me too Tray! Hubby doesn't like to expiriment or try new things...or even really like to have sex...so here is where I can be me. I can't always be ME at home!

Tray34 07/16/2008

I can never be me at home..Not like I can here anyway..

deleted_user 07/16/2008

Brent, I am on SSD and am able to go for therapy at no cost... I live in Pa. Maybe there is a way for you to go at no cost also.. Would not hurt to look into it.. Ask your SS office for advise.... Hope I can help in any way... smiles
ciaobella

deleted_user 07/16/2008

I have just started learning how to communicate my needs to others. And I am part of the singles group on here. I am here to learn so that when a guy comes along who is worth my time I will be knowledgeable.

deleted_user 07/16/2008

I agree very helpful and interesting

deleted_user 07/16/2008

Been with same man for 15yrs ,married to him 8yrs ..8yrs ago he found out I was Bipolar and Depressed..We got closer our life is great and he always talks about what could spark alittle fun in the bed room..

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