Her kids will do everything in their power to creep you out. It's like a defense mechanism for them.

I am safe...this child is only 4 years old. Kids are okay with me. I also understand how important the kids would be an that the kid would come first in her life.

if you like each other dont meet the child for a while
just take your time enjoy the date and let her know you like kids have a nice time dont worry about it, go whit the flow

If she's out on a date, she probably wants to just forget about being a mum for an evening and enjoy some grown-up conversation :)

You'll probably get to know her kid better when she judges the time is right; for the shorter term, I'd be willing to bet she'd rather see how well you two get on, and whether it's likely to lead to a relationship.

Volt - not necessarily. Though some kids are just generally creepy, mine - for some odd reason, find it entertaining and amusing to antagonize. NO idea where they would get something like that from.

Heave, don't focus on the kids, but if she brings them up, acknowledge them to her. If it's going to continue, accept that you will be second place, and things get cancelled at the last minute due to daycare/shared parenting issues. And when you meet them? Don't kiss ass. It's annoying.

I'm a single mom and my girl has met two people

I think when she introduces the children sit back and see how they are with you. Some need time to adjust. They may not like you don't let it be discouraging.

Do NOT give her parenting advice, I get told I spoil my little girl it pisses me off.

My last gf was a single mom, it was the first time I dated a single mom, and it has been the best, and worst for me. I am still to this day deeply in love with her but for personel reasons, and some bad decisions on my end we are no longer together, But not only did I fall for her, I fell for her kids, so I not only lost a gf, I lost the chance to be with two great kids. Good luck dating a single mom, could be the best date you have ever had, And you are right with one thing, her kids will always come first no matter how much she falls for you.

ALL I KNOW, I LEARNED FROM WATCH JERRY MCGUIRE.



"DON'T SHOPLIFT THE PUUTY."

Heave you said, "I also understand how important the kids would be an that the kid would come first in her life" This is a very very big point that you are already aware of. Good for you mate. I have a very raw and fresh experience with this, mum putting the kids first. And it can tare both of you to pieces, so keep it in mind mate, always. She has to put the kids first. The love of a mum for her kids is an awesome force in my experience. She will, well I guess not all mums are like this, sacrifice everyone and everything for her kids.
And it can tare you to pieces because you know you have to respect that and honor her. The kids must always come first in my opinion.

On the flip side, if you are a decent honest guy who really can give the kids the father figure they need, it may well be the best damned thing that ever happened to all of you. So, good luck with it mate. I hope she's the one.

Well Heave if you get in to a relationship with her, your life is going to change. But that might be a good thing and something you both need.
Good Luck.

soooo...did it happen? how'd it go?

Be the kid's best friend, until it comes time to fuck this woman. Make sure the kid is in bed and sleepy. Then lock and double-bolt that bedroom door...and try to keep those moans down.

I meant HER bedroom door.

Regarding being the kid's best friend, scratch that--be with the kid however SHE wants you to be with the kid. If she needs you to be a disciplinarian, be a disciplinarian. Help her in any way SHE needs you to help her.

and yet another priceless piece of advice from the koolman...I love him...*sigh*