You cannot raise your standards with a married man and he probably already thinks of you as a booty call. The fact that he is being unfaithful to his wife who he made vows to says a lot about his character and how little he would value and respect you should a relationship form from this. Know your worth and find a single man who you can create a healthy relationship with.

Thank you sparrow64!

You are very welcome.

As sparrow said...he doesn’t look at you as anything but a booty call. You treat him the same. Don’t expect more.

If you are looking for more, look somewhere else

Standards? Sorry but you threw them out the window when you crossed the line of morality and became an adulteress. Accept it for what it is or move on to someone unmarried, single.

What you are doing is extremely damaging to the person he is married to. I've been the person being cheated on and the hurt, mistrust, and resulting anxiety don't really ever go away. You should get out of that situation right away before you guys destroy people's lives more than you already have.

Iamtorm you can not raise standards with a married man. He cheated on his wife he knew it and so do you. It’s almost impossible to be a happy end with this guy unless he loves you so so much to divorce his wife for you. Looks more like a movie scenario than reality. Careful

He is married and getting his piece on the side. A little fun action.
Imagine how you would feel if you were his wife... I know it's hard... But being on both sides, I would now never EVER even flirt with a married man. It's just icky in all sorts of ways.
You sound like you want it to be more... You want to split up a marriage. My advice is don't. You will regret it. My advice is to end it and find someone who is available and not invested with someone else. It will save you, and everyone else, a lot of pain.

He sounds like a used and a loser.

well I don't think there is such a thing as raising standards with someone that doesn't truly respect standards in the first place. I have been there done that before but my situation is different. I'm married and I was separated from my husband and I tried dating other people. I got involved with a married man but the difference is we are both married and we were having problems in our marriage we were honest with each other about what was going on and we dated and had sex several times it was fun but then we ended things and he went back to his wife. I am with my husband but we are in a long distance relationship and we have some what of an open relationship. I'm Bisexual so that changes things a whole lot but my husband is straight. He is more conservative than I am and I have desires to try new things and to think outside of the box. I love my husband but I get bored and I don't always get my needs met with him so I have gone outside of the marriage. Affairs happen for one reason or another some people cheat because they don't have very open communication with their partner to let them know what they really want what is working and what isn't working in the relationship. My husband knows that I have had other relationships and sexual partners. We still want to be together so we are. If we couldn't deal with each others baggage or whatever you want to call it then we wouldn't be the right match for each other. I think more people should be open and honest and say what they really want even if what they want is to be with someone else.