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Boyfriend is into diapers

phoenixfire88
phoenixfire88

Hi, 


So I've been with my BF almost 6 months. I'm 27, he's 24. We have not had sex. I contracted HSV 1 from a former partner, he has a 3-5 in 100 chance of getting it. Says hes ok with it, I'm on medicine, he says he'll use condoms. 


He was in the military, has PTSD. he finds that "regressing" helps him cope. So he wears diapers and likes to be treated like a child. At first he told me he just wore them to sleep, he has vivid dreams and sometimes has accidents. I was fine with that. Now I'm seeing how much he loves this. He talks about diapers with me constantly, acts like a kid when we're alone together, throws stuff around (not at me, just like a kid would throw toys), uses a pacifier. We've tried having sex and he wants the diaper to be involved. He has to be wearing it, I take it off him, then he wants me to finger his butthole, and "humiliate" him, whatever that means. 


My question is, is it ok for me to set limits on this behavior? For example when we hang out at my house, he has to act "normal" for an hour, then for an hour he can act like a kid? I wanted a boyfriend not a baby! He gets upset that I say I don't find him attractive in the diapers. I hate babies, hate everything about diapers, also I'm a germaphobe and I hate body fluids. Is it ok for me to set boundaries? When we're around other friends he is very cocky, confident, etc person. But then my "alone time" with him is spent with me telling him not to put the TV remote in his diaper because he thinks it's cute!!! I feel like I'm not getting a fair deal. Please help. 

gregsbaby
gregsbaby
Wow I thought I've heard about all the different fetishes and things but this is definitely a new one! Does he know you hate anything baby wise? I'm not quite sure how to answer your question except for to say how much more of this are you willing to put up with and be subjected to? You can try to set boundaries, however it sounds like he may not like if you did that. You said you wanted a boyfriend not a baby and it looks as though this is who he is so you stay with him and his fetish or it's a deal breaker and you wish him well and never look back.
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
I have to agree with the above post. It sounds to me like its a one sided deal and he is asking a lot of you! PTSD is nothing to mess around with either. Many people suffer from it and do things to improve the situation. I am not sure how regressing to infancy is going to help.
Anyway my advice is that you tell him your concerns and what you want out of the relationship and if he cant give you that then its time to say good bye.

Best of luck!
koolman
koolman
Does the U.S. military offer free counseling at the VA to "de-program" vets suffering from PTSD?
MrMG
MrMG
There is no de-programming from PTSD. One simply learns how to respond to the sudden triggers, flashbacks, nightmares and constant barrage of memories. That said, I would encourage him to get some counseling at the VA. I've quite a large number of Vets with PTSD and none have exhibited the behavior that you describe. However there are baby fetish groups where he would be welcomed. If it isn't your thing I suggest moving on.
brandon18
brandon18
Relationships are about compromising. Let him wear diapers but set reasonable boundaries.
Dragonfly_2025
Dragonfly_2025
If you are okay with it you could let him meet with a mommy who cares for him like a baby. She would give him that special treatment he longs for and would take that part from your shoulders.
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