First first first. I want to say. That if you don't want to get pregnant. You need to use some sort of birth control. You said you are having a consult for an iud. But what are you using in the meantime?

I also want to say that you can't compare - never compare a present lover to a past one. At least not to them. Maybe to your girlfriends. But never to current lover.
He asked you if you have had better which probably means he is somewhat insecure in what he is doing. Tell him how much you love what you two do together.

As you said you can't force him to like going down on you and if he dislikes it intensely you may turn him away if you keep asking.

There are many ways you can try to spice it up in bed. Maybe a sexy outfit or toys. Having sex in different places. Role playing. Game playing. Something you would both enjoy.

I could never be with a man that won't do oral on me.
But that's just me.

I am thin and petite and don't like to be on top either, I feel super self conscious because I have super small boobs....lol!

Girl you better start using condoms or you are going to get pregnant!
Pre cum has sperm in it!

onetoomany is right. Men excrete a liquid that contains sperm from their penis when they get aroused. It helps with lubrication . You may have never noticed it but it's there and can get you pregnant.

Some men have an aversion to giving oral sex. Just be sure its nice and fresh down there . Not a good thing after a hot sweaty car ride or
whatever.
Personally , i think it's one of the greatest views on earth. Where else
can you have such a close relationship with a vagina and get to play
with boobies at the same time !

@Dogg, if you didn't already have a GF I would be on my way over right now! LOL!!!

Lucky, Lucky lady you have!

I have been in your situation. was married for 31 years ; my hubby did oral sex at first, then decided he did not like it .....said I did not smell good or taste good...I forget which.
which is ironic in so many ways , b/c every other man I have ever been with ( a lot ) went out of their way to tell me how great it tasted and smelled even
this probably is not your situation but I want to point out another irony in my life......did you know women can be allergic to semen? I don't know if I was allergic but I know it does change the Ph level of our plumbing......and my husband's semen did something to my vagina that always made it itch and smell strange. Not good
the man I have sex with now, is polar opposite. He is very hygenic thankfully , and I have no itching or odor after sex with him.

just by accident, something I read online once that I had no idea people did, was use plastic wrap , I think the idea is to put it over the pussy ( I hate that word ) for the other person giving oral sex, maybe it is protection if a partner has HIV or something?
I think it is called a dental dam ? Maybe others here could let us both know.

anyway , I got curious and used some plastic wrap to see what it felt like, to myself, and I thought it felt even sexier than without it.

so maybe you could convince him to try that ?
maybe he is just shy about it ? Does not feel confident or something?

now , about the being on top thing.......I am not thin but have lost a nice amount of weight and now I feel much more at ease being on top.
My husband hated me being overweight and he stubbornly refused my requests in trying different positions I suggested....

he was un satisfied much of the time because of this problem since it is difficult to achieve the best arousal when one or both parents are large and not trying positions to help.
I felt doggy style helped. I enjoyed it.
my husband , I cannot believe how much he either did not believe me or did not care to try ......but he would have his legs in the wrong place, like outside of mine, when it should be inside of mine, and vice versa.

anyway I have talked about this book in this group before...I totally stumbled upon it at the library and it shows diagrams etc, of positions .
My husband could have used it. My new lover already does every single one of the positions in the book.
I tease him about being born Indian (the Kuma Sutra) and inherited that knowledge.

the book is called The Everything Great Sex book.
it is not a kuma sutra book but I think it does reference it , in part.

Thank you all for your input. We use no form of birth control at the moment but we always talk about using condoms and 90% of the time we don't follow through. We need to be smarter as we don't want a child. I can live without getting oral sex but it just seems kinda unfair to give him a blow job without anything in return. Like I said, it's not like he's asking very often for me to give him head and maybe I'm not that good and that's why....
Plus now that we're getting serious and a couple he refers to sex usually as just sex or making love, but once in awhile he says he wants to fuck me. I guess this is normal too? Sex can be intimate and more passionate but also more aggressive and rough but that doesn't mean his feelings are any less for me. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship with sex as when I was married we weren't intimate so it's kinda new for me again

Well, shanbanan- sex is strange and also great isn't it.
personally , I love my guy to say I want to fuck you. (can't believe I am typing this is a public forum omg) but at the right time in the right tone of voice...low and sexy I guess...I truly want to melt.
however my poor beleagured husband of 31 years , may he rest in Peace) he had completely stopped making any sex we had , feel like love was involved.
oh , I KNOW he loved me and adored me even. but with sex somewhere along the line, I think he got mixed signals from me or I don't know, but started being demanding and
"taking it"
which is why I guess communication is so important. not during , I mean after .
I liked this, I did not like that..you know.
During sex is ok to communicate too, but not nag or complain ;)
MsViv is right never compare one person to another , never.

And really , please figure out for sure what is the solution for the birth control. I cringe to admit this but I never once had sex with a condom involved. But I wanted kids ironically , but could not have any. Don't count on luck for you !
any problems you have now will be magnified with a kid.....
I believe in abortion when necessary but I do not believe in it as a form of birth control !

Just start stroking his cock with your hand when you're in the mood, then give him amazing head. Once he gets comfortable with the hand, I'm sure he won't resist the head, and he'll probably warm up to the idea of giving you head too, to reciprocate that amazing feeling.

Yeah, I ditto the others, if you don't want to be preggers, better start using rubbers. But you said you two are getting serious anyway, so, aside from your vanilla sex, you're pretty much already married, and a kiddo or two would merely seal the deal.

I am married 23 years but sex has been limited to almost never. She has pain when I enter or even touch her. She has refused to get drugs or anything to help.

I love to eat pussy. Love to get head to. But she is not good at it so I never ask. As far as positions I love to be a bit wild and will do any position the female wants to try.

As long as I am having sex I am happy. Just wish I would get more of it.

last post, does your wife get turned on, first , lubricated ?
that could be part of her pain if not. but maybe it is an emotional thing.
knees should be wide apart (like when we visit our gynecologist; sorry to throw that in) And, something else super important that I happen to blessed in not having a problem with, is she needs to breathe.
deep slow breaths.
here is how I recently read ; b/c I get embarrassed sometimes since I moan a lot but really enjoy it. So I recently read that that actually helps a woman to enjoy the pleasure and some women apparently hold their breath without knowing it...keeping muscles tight and can't let go and enjoy.
p.s. my new favorite thing to use is coconut oil. man it is the best lubricant and totally safe.

Thistoo: Yes she does get wet and turned on. Hell look at my face!! Who wouldn't? ;)

Anyways, she has been told it is a post menopausal thing. That is why she would have needed to take estrogen, but she doesn't want to.

If he doesn't like the taste after a shower he could cover your V with saran wrap that would detour the taste part..
Not sure how sex 'horsey style' is degrading it's an enjoyable position for both, maybe he just don't like lookin at rump?
There are many positions he can get into even with just being on top..

All it takes is a drop of pre cum & you could have four kids screamin at you... lol
pulling out as everyone else says is still a good way to get prego, I met someone who had 2 kids that way.
We don't feel the pre cum leaking sooo are you pregnant now?

There are flavored lubes. I also like the idea of using cool whip or anything else with yummy flavor.. I've been wanting to try Redi Whip squirted up me and have it sucked out...

Shelle and ALL you really have to be careful with putting food into the vagina. Foods contain suger and especially redi whip and that can cause yest infections and other iritations.

Let me be brutally honest: your not gonna make it as a couple.

If he doesnt like giving oral, its not gonna change. All my guy friends who dont do oral (which is very few) its a game breaker for them. They tell their ladies right off the bat in a new relationship so the ladies know its not going to change.

If you like oral and arent willing to give it up for the long term, either be ok with acknowledging this is a short term relationship, or move on.

Now as for me, I could stay down between my Wifes legs for hours and just hang out with her vagina I like it so much. She thinks I like her vagina more than she does, and she is probably right. The smell, the taste, even how it looks. Nothing better in the world. Bacon and my WIfes vagina, 2 greatest things in the world!