Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
We should all know who we are and what type of person we are. We should also know what type of sexual person we are.
This being said, if you know who you are, what you are comfortable with, and what you like then you should stay true to form.
Here is my example:
I am a person who attaches deep meaning into sex. This has to do with a lot of emotional things with me and I am also extremely loyal. Because of this I would never cheat on a partner. I would also never be involved in a threesome because it wouldn't sit well with the way that I am. I would avoid any temptation like this knowing how I am.
I believe in fairness. If I ask someone to do something for me I will do that or something similar for them. I have my own kinks and if I ask my partner to participate in them then I should find out their kinks and participate in them as well. If my partner is not comfortable with a particular kink then I wouldn't ask them do to this as I want them to have fun also (giving pleasure is just as important to me as getting pleasure). The reverse is true.
Sometimes we all need to take a deep look inside of ourselves and discover exactly who we are. This will benefit us, and it will benefit our partners.
This being said, if you know who you are, what you are comfortable with, and what you like then you should stay true to form.
Here is my example:
I am a person who attaches deep meaning into sex. This has to do with a lot of emotional things with me and I am also extremely loyal. Because of this I would never cheat on a partner. I would also never be involved in a threesome because it wouldn't sit well with the way that I am. I would avoid any temptation like this knowing how I am.
I believe in fairness. If I ask someone to do something for me I will do that or something similar for them. I have my own kinks and if I ask my partner to participate in them then I should find out their kinks and participate in them as well. If my partner is not comfortable with a particular kink then I wouldn't ask them do to this as I want them to have fun also (giving pleasure is just as important to me as getting pleasure). The reverse is true.
Sometimes we all need to take a deep look inside of ourselves and discover exactly who we are. This will benefit us, and it will benefit our partners.
The truth about me is, I'm hot and cold with regards to loving someone. Sometimes I'm extremely affectionate, and sometimes I need to be left alone. My current mindset is that I'm NOT feeling monogamous, but, then again, there's nobody I love at the moment. That could all change if I allow myself to fall in love with someone (i.e. they fit well into my life).
As far as kinks, that depends on the woman that I'm with, what she looks like, and what she IS like. Some girls are so damn kinky that it naturally brings out my kinky side too. Others are more loving, but rather prudish and conservative, and I wouldn't dare suggest something kinky with them. I prefer someone who is loving with a bit of kinky side too-! And, if she's got a body to kill for, well...who WOULDN'T think of all kinds of nasty things to do with/to that body?
When I'm back on top of my game as far as career and money (this bloody economy is starting to turn around), that will affect my emotional security and assessment of whether I want to commit to someone too. I'll be in a better frame of mind. So, basically, career and economic stability are priority now!
I know my boundaries, but I'm not going to rule out having a good time or trying something new. "Should" is an irrational term... the world 'should' be a nice place. People "should" always be nice to each other, but the reality is that "should" doesn't always work. I thought I knew myself sexually, but when my BF and I broke up I went out with guys and did different things I never thought I'd be interested in... I even hit on a woman.
It's nice to try to be fair, but sometimes things just don't work out that way..I'd like to say I can see who I am deep down inside, but it's more exciting to me to change constantly, I'm not the same person I was even six months ago!