KOOLMAN, I never know what you are going to ask and am always interested for the next topic or comment you have. I have read so much you have written and remember alot of it so I am going to answer this in a private message to you ok.... Nicole

Oh, hell, Nicole--I know I'm a strange guy who posts some off-the-wall stuff (keeps life from getting boring).

You crack me up but thanks for the nice chat my friend :) I think we both learned alot tonight.

Koolman,

I do not know your story but you appear to be a man. you claim to be a man you are man :) some of us guys are more feeling based and of us guys are brainless idiots :) Just because you want to enjoy your woman does not make you a freak it makes you a man who enjoys his woman :) these are my thoughts any ways

Seeking intimacy and exploration outside of penetration can be very romantic and I think a lot of women wish that they had a man who was more in touch with that.Just because you don't want to throw her down and slam her a few times doesn't mean it's less manly.
It's nice to see someone who admits he likes intimacy more than self gratification.My ex husband was a really brutal lover and never cared about such things,so after the divorce,I learned alot about true intimacy.They are like night and day.To each his(or her)own

KOOLMAN in my best Schwarzenegger impression:
"You are a Girly MAN" - and in my Sienfeld impression = "not that there is anything wrong with that" LOL sorry just an attempt at Monday morning humor.

Sometimes that is all we have time for (fondling and kissing) We do that alot during the day (since the kids are playing somewhere in the house) We can't usually have sex until thier bedtime or if they are out of the house.

So to me, it doesn't always lead to sex. But...when we do have sex, it is mandatory! lol

You know, I've ALWAYS said there was the soul of gay man living inside me...no kidding...
Kool, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Men get put under a lot of pressure to "perform" and "satisfy" there women. Just relax and be yourself, be honest, tell her you really feel just like cuddling, or if you really need to 'pummel her like a bull'. If she cares about you she crave any and all attention you give her. I think foreplay can be fun and enough, but it helps knowing before it starts that foreplay is all there is going to be...you know it's not nice to get girl's hopes up and then leave her hanging. Good luck...dont be so hard on yourself - have fun!

Some interesting responses there. I think my problem (if it is a problem) is I don't always enjoy being "the aggressor". I enjoy it SOMETIMES, but not always; sometimes I want to relax, not have to be "the bull", and enjoy softer sensations. Does that make me a "girly man"? Sure! I'll buy that LOL.

A relationship (I think) is the one place where we're supposed to be "ourselves". It's gonna take one special woman to love and understand me LOL...

I agree, you be YOU! Personally, I wish you would write an article on how you "do things" and I will pass it on to my h...He needs to read that!

Koolman - Personally, kissing and fondling doesn't always have to end with the "grand event". I love to be kissed and just fondled and I also love to give the same. Just because I'm kissing and fondling you doesn't mean I want to make love. I'm a very affectionate person and just love to touch

I second that CB.

So THAT'S why you just wanted to kiss and fondle then, girls...ok, it all makes sense now...I thought it was something I did! LOL

RS - what the HELL are you talking about?

lmao