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HeaveToo 03/09/2009

I have been out of the dating world for a while. I have to admit that I was never really any good at it anyways.

I had a date with a girl the other day and there was very good chemistry. Date was definitely G rated, which is fine by me.

I am worried that I will not pick up the signs to try to kiss her when I see her again, if it is time to do that. The other thing is that I am worried is that I have no idea when to try to initate more.

I just don't want to move too fast or too slow and I am REALLY bad at taking hints.

Ladies, what signals do you give the guys when you are ready for those things?

deleted_user 03/09/2009

personally I tend to lean my head on my shoulder and smile innocently. That being if I am interested in kissing. Or perhaps as juvenile as it may sound when I am walking next to the guy I lean into them a little and smile as I back away a little to see what the guy does.

deleted_user 03/09/2009

I don't have much experience in the dating scene either. So perhaps this would be the blind leading the blind eh?

koolman 03/09/2009

You don't. You forge ahead and be prepared to make mistakes. If she doesn't slap the shit out of you, perhaps you're on the right track...

deleted_user 03/10/2009

Koolman said it all.

deleted_user 03/10/2009

Body language. If she seems like she doesn't mind being close to you, that's always good. If she laughs a lot and appears to be having fun, that's also good.

But...

If her contributions to the conversation are single-word answers, and she spends a lot of time looking away from you, that's bad. If she spends her time ignoring you so she can send text messages, that's VERY bad. In this case, your best bet is to tell her that an emergency has come up and you need to cut the date short, but that you had a blast with her, and you'll DEFINITELY call her again.

deleted_user 03/10/2009

I agree with DewPark. If the lady is so Poker Faced that you cannot tell then you can use times like getting in and out of the car, etc. to stand very close. If she does not back off then she is more likely to be receptive. You will know when she does not object to your nearness. Try stroking her arm with your finger. You aren't doing it to arouse her. Just judge her reaction. If you really study her face you may notice an increased breathing rate. Just do it when she is looking away. You don't want to give her the creeps. My chest rises and falls when I am in a state of anticipation like that. I have also heard that the pupils will be a little dilated. Just go for it. If she backs off it is not a rejection. That only means, Stop rushing me.

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