I have,,, She was Bi-Polar I think and refused to take any kind of meds.,,, She was a blast in bed one day and want to fist fight the next,,,lol,,,for almost 6 months,,,,but there was never a dull day,,, I kinda miss her.

Sex and Trophy wife..

Yes I did.

ignored some pretty bad things.

Nope. For me, no matter how great the sex is, it's not worth staying in a relationship I'm no longer happy in.

No, I was with someone and we had some pretty phenomenal sex but he was an asshole and I was sick of dealing with it, so I left. Do I miss it? Hell yes. Would I go back? Hell no.

Has it ever occurred to anyone that the REASON the sex was so good is because the person was such an asshole/bitch?

Nothing fuels hot sex like some really intense anger.

I see nothing wrong with some QUIET, steamy sex...without the nagging and fistfights. If two people enjoy each other on that level, then depart to separate residences so as not to "spoil" it, why not...

@ Kool, Not all ex's are assholes or bitches. Stbxh and I had a sex life that was fantastic, hot, steamy, adventurous, uninhibited, 27 years of great sex and he is in no way, shape or form an asshole and I am not a bitch and there was never any anger between us. Even now that we're getting divorced, he's not an asshole and I'm not a bitch, we have nothing bad to say about the other, we have no anger towards each other but we would not stay together just because we had great sex.

We tried the just sex thing when we first decided to split but it didn't work for either one of us. Physically it was great while we were in the moment but afterwards we both found it to be too depressing. There was too much history between us to go from a husband/wife/lover relationship to just having sex with each other to satisfy our physical needs.

The kind of hot sex I enjoy, I would not have with someone who has intense anger towards me, is holding resentments towards me or a person who has an overall angry demeanor. That would not be hot sex to me, that would be very scary sex.

I agree with Leather, definately. I was in a great relationship, we barely ever fought and we had some really fantastic times. It was towards the end of our relationship that he began showing a different side of him, and it freaked me out. I didn't know how to handle going from everything being so good, to everything going so wrong. That is why I left in the end. It wasn't that he was an asshole the whole time I was with him, because most of the time he was a really decent guy!

We just ultimately had a really amazing time, but it isn't something that I would go back to.

I haven't really had that fantastic opportunity, but, I have stayed when the sex was really, really bad and even non-existent.

never had bad sex, ergo..

For me, it wasn't exactly for the SEX, per se, but maybe precisely because he was an asshole. He did what he liked, and if I didn't like it, all the better - that meant he could force me. I don't know, I guess he made me feel like I was with a man. That sort of thing still excites me, but now I've found a man who actually values me and is kind to me, as well as knowing how to be dominating, and maybe a little cruel.

oh yes.... had great sex... then fight... make up sex. argue... more make up sex.

problem is that the good and bad were just 2 different sides of passion.

i do miss it - even today

LOL Itson, what's with the bi-polar sex freaks?

I kind of did. I didn't know it at the time but he was bi-polar also. I'd never dated anyone that was normal one minute and crazy the next. I couldn't get rid of him. I'm still laughing at itson's post...not that there's anything funny about being bi-polar but your statement about never being a dull day is so true :)

Yes, but didn't like the way I felt afterwards. Enjoyed the sex but always felt empty after it.