Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
LOL.. OKAY so me and my boyfriend of 6 months.... cant seem to have good sex, i mean we have had good sex, but never great, and that was only a couple of times. its like he dont read me well at all, and ill admit he wasnt my type to begin with, but i love him hes a great guy. but it seems everytime its bad... i lost some of my drive altogether. it almost seems like a chore sometimes because you never know whats going to happen or how long it will take to finish. and anytime we get into a position that feels good for me, he dont last.... at all. and he said he never had that problem before. weve tried surfing the net.... looking for things to help.... but im honestly getting tired..... any suggestions? i really love this guy, i want us to have good sex.... LOL
*Maybe* you can keep working at things until you both get it right with each other, or at least find a compromise that keeps you both happy. But how much effort are you both prepared to put into it?
One thought, if you're really determined to make a go of it - how about taking a break from intercourse, take off the pressure to get an orgasm that way, and instead both of you take turns pleasuring each other separately? That might teach you both a lot about each other's pleasure zones, how to find the right spots, but in a way that's not quite so distracting.
Just a suggestion, maybe someone else will have some other ideas.
I BUMPED up a good thread for you...It is titled, "How to spice up your sex life."
Welcome to the group!! Good Luck!!
things change on me from day to day, and well, i have trouble even doing it myself. and after a while, whom im with can usually get me,
but not him, it just seems like it gets worse. we have had good sex once or twice, but never great. I dont get it. i mean i guess he never had complaints before, i tell him maybe they just didnt want to tell him.
who knows.... lol.
Have you tried toys and really gotten to know your own body? If you are having trouble pleasing yourself it will be nearly impossible for you to teach someone else how to please you.
This toy works great!! It also has an attachment that you buy seperately for your G-spot.
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-hitachi-wand-massager-9465.aspx
Just an idea: You could let him use the toy on you...while you give him oral...that way
you both would be getting pleasured at the same time. Good Luck!!
I need to retract my last sentence....If my partner wasn't attracted to me... I wouldn't want them giving me oral or even touching me in an intimate way to be honest with you.