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fullmetalheart 09/11/2013

Well... I havent gone back to him.
he said he wants to drive my cat up to see me, but I think thats just a lie. Its been so hard without that little grey fuzzball. I've always had an animal to keep me company my entire life.. I feel very empty..

Back to mentally dating anime characters I suppose

stillbitterjaded 09/11/2013

Atta girl.

And yes - I agree it's a lie,

MsViv 09/11/2013

Yes, it's a lie. If you can have the cat where you are, suggest to him that someone will pick the cat up. Either from his place or they will meet him somewhere to get the cat.. You can't go. Nothing good will come from that.

awesomeself 09/11/2013

Ditto Viv's comment. DO NOT SEE HIM under ANY circumstances. Stay strong. Start making a list of every crappy and/or violent thing he's said/done to you. This will really help in moments of weakness.

deleted_user 09/11/2013

I agree with everyone above.

Stay strong love, and keep on looking forward

My thoughts and prayers are with you :)

deleted_user 09/11/2013

I agree with everyone else, stay away from him. If he wants to give you your cat back, make arrangements for someone else to get the cat. Stay strong Bonnie!

scarletjaded 09/11/2013

Yes, make arrangements with someone else to get the cat back? Or maybe its time to adopt a new little guy? There are tons of animals thay nees good homes....

ThorOdinson 09/11/2013

As I mentioned to you on your Hotel Tonight discussion this is the part he will try and win you back.

He will go for the soft sales approach right now since you have only been gone a short while and this is just a little misunderstanding as far as he sees it. He still feels he is in control and has absolute power. As he becomes more concerned, he will make his sales pitch fit accordingly to how he sees his progress in winning you back is progressing.

I agree with everyone else that this is a lie about the cat, and I strongly suggest you stay away from him and avoid all contact. You made a big step in leaving the abuse; contact with him will only strengthen him and weaken you. You need your strength for yourself and not to allow him to gain anything.

You need to continue to move forward.

The suggestions of journaling the nasty things done to you is an excellent idea. The top of the list could be this issue with the cat. The writing and the re-reading would also provide you more determination should you ever need an extra boost to help maintain your resolve. I never thought of it because I have a memory like an elephant and unfortunately I never seem to forget anything, though I wish I could at times.

Stay safe and be strong. You are doing this for the most important person you know Yourself.

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