Recently I again approached the stbx with a decent proposal from the attorney and myself. Again, he shot me down. Now, suddenly, after more than 10 years of everything lacking (including communication) he has decided to open up and wants me to do the same I have tried, but was quickly reminded how it works.....Is ok for me to be open, but I have to select and weigh my words ever so carefully or run the risk of again being accused of being selfish and not understanding how all this affects HIM.
He made a statement that it would be better if he knew i wanted to leave because I had gone on to find another man. ...Said it was worse knowing I was running away with nothing else in mind to go to. I have explained that I am not happy, and none of my needs are being met (while all of his still are.) To think cheating is a better and more accepted reason than simply to neglect and not consider my happiness or needs. Kinda sums things up where I stand (perhaps under his left shoe wih a footprint?)
WOULD YOU PREFER YOUR WIFE LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER MAN RATHER THAN TO SIMPLY DISCOVER SOME FREEDOM , ACCEPTANCE AND HAPPINESS AGAIN?