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OK most of you know that I have taken a brake from dating.
It's kind of funny what's been going on as of late. First I get harassed by a girl on Friday, one that I really liked and yesterday I get a call from this girl that I went on a date with 3 weeks ago. We had been talking for about a month. She didn't really hold up her end when it came to conversation but she messaged me a lot and I could see that she was kind of interested in me. So I asked if she wanted to go on a date, she says yes and we planned to go out to eat and to the movies. I didn't really put to much in to it because I thought she was kind of a bore over the phone and by messaging. The only reason I decided to go on this date was because she was kind of cute and maybe we would connect more in person. I get her address and put on my phone navigator app. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't put her address in the thing but I did find a road that she lived close by, she just told me to go to that road and call her when I got there.
I started to get a little concerned here but I said OK. I drove an hour away from my house and ended up in the middle of nowhere, somewhere north of Memphis. I call her but she doesn't pick up. I sit there and I am getting a little irritated so I message her and ask what's up, I'm here sitting at the end of this road and I can't get a hold of you. About 15 minutes pass and she finally calls, apparently she had phone issues and was on the phone with the phone company. She tells me where to go and I finally meet her, the first thing she says to me with a look of disappointment was that I didn't look like she thought I would . I didn't really understand we had been sending selfies to each other for weeks. I didn't really say anything about it, I just figured then that it was just a night out making a new friend.
We went to the restaurant that she was talking about and we ate there, things started to get a little more comfortable there and I thought hey this is pretty fun. After dinner she asked if we could get a bottle of Crown Royal and go back to her place and play cards instead of going to the movies.
I like to play cards so I said sure. We got some Crown and coke.
Went back to her place except it wasn't really her place, it's her moms. I can't say that I wasn't a little disappointed but I didn't really have anything to do at home so I decided to stay. She started to serve some Crown and coke. I told her before i started drinking that i wanted to make sure that couch was available for me to sleep on because there was no way that I was going to drive home drunk. She yeah sure no problem you can definitely sleep on the couch. Okay then, that's what I will do. We got pretty drunk while her mom was giving the dogs a bath. Her mom comes up and decides she wants to play with us. We sit and drink some more while we all three play cards. Around midnight I get up and go take a leak and I overhear her mom saying that there is no way that I am sleeping over. At that time I could barely stand. So I quit drinking and I decided well I will wait until 2 before I try to leave, hoping that I will sober up by then. We played some more the 3 of us and before long it was 2am. I felt almost sober and really tired. I said well I'm going to hit the road. Erica the girl I was dating said no I want to play some more. I said I was kind of tired and needed to go home, she whispered to me and said, she'll be going to bed soon and you can sleep with me in my bed. She's hard of hearing and she won't be up till noon. I said OK then and I decided to stay. Her mom never did go to bed and at 5:30 the game ended and I had to drive home. I wasn't drunk at all but I felt extremely hung over. She walked me to my car and I looked at her and said, there aren't really any fire works here is there. She said nope not really but you are a nice guy. I chuckled and said gee thanks. We hugged and that was it or so I thought.
She calls me yesterday and is all passed off that I didn't call her. I said why in the hell would I call you. That was the absolute worst date I've ever been on.
My question is would you expect a phone call after a date like that?
Oh I think it'd be kind of fun sharing about bad dating experiences. Does anybody have some funny stories about bad dates.
I thought mine was kind of funny lol
It's kind of funny what's been going on as of late. First I get harassed by a girl on Friday, one that I really liked and yesterday I get a call from this girl that I went on a date with 3 weeks ago. We had been talking for about a month. She didn't really hold up her end when it came to conversation but she messaged me a lot and I could see that she was kind of interested in me. So I asked if she wanted to go on a date, she says yes and we planned to go out to eat and to the movies. I didn't really put to much in to it because I thought she was kind of a bore over the phone and by messaging. The only reason I decided to go on this date was because she was kind of cute and maybe we would connect more in person. I get her address and put on my phone navigator app. I couldn't figure out why I couldn't put her address in the thing but I did find a road that she lived close by, she just told me to go to that road and call her when I got there.
I started to get a little concerned here but I said OK. I drove an hour away from my house and ended up in the middle of nowhere, somewhere north of Memphis. I call her but she doesn't pick up. I sit there and I am getting a little irritated so I message her and ask what's up, I'm here sitting at the end of this road and I can't get a hold of you. About 15 minutes pass and she finally calls, apparently she had phone issues and was on the phone with the phone company. She tells me where to go and I finally meet her, the first thing she says to me with a look of disappointment was that I didn't look like she thought I would . I didn't really understand we had been sending selfies to each other for weeks. I didn't really say anything about it, I just figured then that it was just a night out making a new friend.
We went to the restaurant that she was talking about and we ate there, things started to get a little more comfortable there and I thought hey this is pretty fun. After dinner she asked if we could get a bottle of Crown Royal and go back to her place and play cards instead of going to the movies.
I like to play cards so I said sure. We got some Crown and coke.
Went back to her place except it wasn't really her place, it's her moms. I can't say that I wasn't a little disappointed but I didn't really have anything to do at home so I decided to stay. She started to serve some Crown and coke. I told her before i started drinking that i wanted to make sure that couch was available for me to sleep on because there was no way that I was going to drive home drunk. She yeah sure no problem you can definitely sleep on the couch. Okay then, that's what I will do. We got pretty drunk while her mom was giving the dogs a bath. Her mom comes up and decides she wants to play with us. We sit and drink some more while we all three play cards. Around midnight I get up and go take a leak and I overhear her mom saying that there is no way that I am sleeping over. At that time I could barely stand. So I quit drinking and I decided well I will wait until 2 before I try to leave, hoping that I will sober up by then. We played some more the 3 of us and before long it was 2am. I felt almost sober and really tired. I said well I'm going to hit the road. Erica the girl I was dating said no I want to play some more. I said I was kind of tired and needed to go home, she whispered to me and said, she'll be going to bed soon and you can sleep with me in my bed. She's hard of hearing and she won't be up till noon. I said OK then and I decided to stay. Her mom never did go to bed and at 5:30 the game ended and I had to drive home. I wasn't drunk at all but I felt extremely hung over. She walked me to my car and I looked at her and said, there aren't really any fire works here is there. She said nope not really but you are a nice guy. I chuckled and said gee thanks. We hugged and that was it or so I thought.
She calls me yesterday and is all passed off that I didn't call her. I said why in the hell would I call you. That was the absolute worst date I've ever been on.
My question is would you expect a phone call after a date like that?
Oh I think it'd be kind of fun sharing about bad dating experiences. Does anybody have some funny stories about bad dates.
I thought mine was kind of funny lol
I think I would have bailed after being told I don't look like I was expected to look. The thing is that if you're just sending selfies, there's still a lot left out like body language, etc. I met a guy once and he was hot, but I wasn't expecting him to have the body language that he did, so it threw me for a loop. But he was hot and we had a good time. I still talk to him.
But no, I wouldn't expect a call after a date like that. I guess she thought things were going better than you did?
You definitely had a worse experience than me.
Any sane person would not bring a strange man she met on internet to her HOME on the first date. What if you were a psycho? A criminal?
Glad there were no sparks, because it probably would have been another disaster.
I cannot believe she invited you to her home! Whacko!