I think you know what you need to do. Unfortunately it sounds like she's not on the same page as you are in terms of the whole relationship. It also sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants. Life is way too short to be with someone that's not on the same page with you. It's not fair to you. Good luck!

A 7 year engagement... Why are you engaged for so long and why aren't you working?

Feel like there's not a complete picture here to even weigh in.

rmb OP says they have been with their fiancé for 7 years. They may have got engaged much more recently than that.

However the other questions do apply- Reasons for not working? Do you want to work? Do you want the same things as each other? These things need to be explored.

All the best.

i should of said that we have been together 7 years not engaged 7 years. The reason i don't work is a few reasons. I have bad anxiety/depression and i am on SSI. Another reason is i live in a small town and there are no jobs available. I have spent more time looking for work in my life than actually working. Do i want to work yes. I used to just get any job i could. Didn't work for me. I need to find a job i like. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. We do want the same things i think. One day we do. Next day she wants something different. Everyday has the possibly of some new idea.

Sorry Frunkiss, I misunderstood the 7 year thing. Maybe she just wants things to be more settled prior to getting married. What does she say when you ask her why she feels one way one day, and one way the next?

I will bring it up to her

I think you have to, but give very specific examples of the times she's done this. Approach it like you want to try to understand.

She sounds psycho. Anger is never a good thing. If she can't nicely and politely express her opinion to you then that's a problem in itself. If you guys can't openly talk about things that's a serious issue. As far as marriage goes. Personally I'd never get married, because being legally binded to someone isn't the smartest idea in my decision. 50 percent of marriages fail not to mention the other 35 percent that just suck. Don't do it man... Maybe you should just tell her how you feel 100% honesty and if she can't take your honesty then JEEZE.

It sounds like she's condescending??.... I would definitely have a talk about this..... People who want control by diminishing someone isn't cool in my mind.... If that's in fact what you're describing?.... Big hug and good luck working something out.... It's good that you know that this isn't okay and don't want to continue tolerating it......xo