I don't know (I'd be happy to try LOL). Maybe this is why some women turn lesbian-! Just kidding--there are good men out here--just keep opening your heart...but do stand on your own two feet and try to be as confident as possible. Loser deadbeat guys love to leech onto sweet, needy females...

There is someone out there for everyone, you just haven't found your someone yet. Sometimes if you don't look for someone it makes it easier for them to find you :)

Sometimes he can be right under your nose. My bf was, we were best friends for 9 years & then one day I looked at him & thought "Hey, why have I not noticed how hot he is until now?!"

Enjoy life & don't go looking, the bad boys are easier to find.

You do have someone. You have Scott. Just give it time and everything will fall into place.

i know i have Scott - but still worried that once he really get to know each other - he is gonna run the other way- i love him this way- just scary to think about- what if he doesn't love me as much- my heart has been trampled on twice already and im not ready for that again.... i've known him for 4 years and feel i can tell him anything.... but i wonder if he feels the same? ...

You always end up with losers? You do realize that you are picking them, right?

You state in reply #5 that your heart has been trampled on twice, and you aren't ready for that again... and you certainly shouldn't be ready to be trampled... but I think you may also just not be ready to even take the chance. If your judgement about men is such that you choose losers, then maybe you would do well to forget about finding a man to complete you, and spend some good solid time enjoying being alone. I know the notion of enjoying aloneness sounds like an oxymoron... but if you aren't able yet to be content without a man in your life... you need to examine yourself and determine how you can fill in that space yourself. Otherwise, its likely that when some guy comes along... any guy who fits your minimum criteria, you'll settle for him and later determine he is a loser too.

Spend some time establishing your criteria, and learning to identify the "tells" that help you recognize that under the veil of desperation this person might seem acceptable... when the veil is lifted... another loser emerges.

As you complete yourself, you will find your standards for what you will and will not open yourself up to will become much more stringent... and as you exude an air that you aren't "looking" for a man... a better quality of man will likely find you inquizitive.
You know the quality you deserve. Don't be quick to settle for less. Alone isn't a bad word.

I'm coming out of a 17yr marriage so I know what feeling alone is and my friends are already trying to set me up w/men and I signed up for the online dating sites, etc but so far no luck. I read Aikijedi's response and the light bulb turned on in my head!!!! I think she is exactly right! I am very scared that I will always be alone and I will end up w/losers til I conquer that fear. Wow!!
I think some soul searching is required here and until you love yourself no one else will either.

god has a plan for you, just try to relax and 'enjoy the ride'. everything will work out the way it's supposed to. think of it this way... which ever guy is 'the guy' he will have been thinking the same thing you are right now...so when you find each other it will mean even more to both of you. 'completion'

maybe you just haven't found the right kind of guy yet. nice guys are like that. nice guys are my type. even if they're nerds...cute nerds though. haha.

as someone else said here, sometimes you have to change the qualities you are looking for in a person. that is what i had to do. and no one is perfect, but you can get a better quality person.

if you are attracted to bad boys, and must women are at some point, you have to change that way of thinking and find other qualities to look for, it takes some effort but it can be worth it.

you also have to feel that you are worth having a good, decent man in your life

The good news is that you recognize the losers. Thats the hardest part. None of us are as omnipotent as we would like to be when choosing friends and lovers, there are always risks. Sometimes the risk works to our favor, other times not so much and then we recover. Part of growth is getting better at risk assessment. What is the risk? What are the red flags? How easily can I recover? Is the reward worth the risk?
You mentioned having good friends. How do you choose your friends?

First of all stop looking for someone, i felt like that and was looking but it never happened.. and as the story goes you have got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince...

Ironically after i stopped looking and totally by accident 2 months later i met and married my hubby and we have been together 13 years now

first of all - thank u for all of the advice- and u know ya'll are right i'm gonna go with the flow in this relationship and if nothing comes of it then im simply going to stop looking - to answer one of the replies- i do love myself- i have started having more confidence and i really feel like a sexy woman- lol ! i am making myself happy or trying to and having a good man to share it with would just be an added bonus :)